I'm dating someone with bipolar and anxiety (he's on meds) and we get along soooo great. but he has moments whe he disappears into his "shell" and he won't respond by phone or e-mail. this could last days or weeks. I'm trying not to take it personally...but I do. What can I do??
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Hi:
I am also Bipolar and on meds. I also have depression and anxiety and more. Please let me reassure you that this is a part of Bipolar and it is NOT you. That is something you must grab hold to and believe that it is NOT you. I understand that must be hard, but it is the truth.
I end up doing this quite often, I will not answer my phone, some times not answer the door, do not want company and want nothing to do with the outside world. I call this "i'm hibernating in my cave" and no one is allowed into my cave, ever. It is my place and my place alone.
Leave voice messages on home phone, work phone, cell phone, tuck notes in the door on the car windshield and so on. That tells him that you love him, you care and you are here for him when he decides to come out of his cave. He may not read them, he won't call to thank you, but you have to havr faith that he knows you are there.
Not only is this a difficult time for him but a difficult time for you. As to what affects him, affects you also. He needs to make sure that he has a solid support team and I feel that is important for you as well. Join a support group, talk to your friends, it easier if you can talk to some one who has been there and done that so to speak.
My contact info is in my profile and I am more than happy to share with you my experiences and what knowledge I do have of Bipolar. Please feel free to contact me at any time as I am mostly here.
Be safe and be well
If in manic mode, he may be with other women. See bipolar disorder and anxiety at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 5, 2, and 6. Print/refer him direct.
Well first off you have to have a lot of understanding. When he does that he is on the down side. Try stopping by and making sure he is taking his meds. Sometimes they stop because of better performance in the bed room. Get involved in his treatment. Go with to Dr, and or counseling appt.
You need to let him know that he can come to you, even when he isn't happy. Let him know you won't leave him if he really expresses his emotions to you. I have issues like bipolar as well, and having a boyfriend who will go out of his way to listen to me rant and rave, and hold me while i cry, is the greatest gift I could ever ask for.
hi. the best thing to do is to just leave voicemails and e-mails that are encouraging, and to let him know that you care. it has nothing to do with you, so don't take it personaly. i am bipolar and have anxiety. i know what he is going through. i hate it when i go into my "shell". but there is nothing i/we can do about it. just be supportive to him. good luck.
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