so which is better her to be MANIC or for her to be calm and gettting better with breast leakage for a few days?
she sees her breasts leak and she said it will give her breast cancer...
Answer:
She needs her meds. Go to her Dr as soon as possible and say what's going on. Perhaps she can get a different medication with less side effects.
she should talk to her doctor
take her to the Dr who gave her the pills and say what is happening =Dr will most likely change to another type of pill=good luck
well, calm and having breast leakage is better, but unless you're going through it, you can't understand where she's coming from, so you have to understand that she's probably suffering. take her to the doctor, maybe they can give her different medication.
Taking the medication is best. She can talk to her Dr. to see if he wants to change the meds, since there are side effects, but most side effects go away with in time
Breast leakage is a known side effect of some of the anti-psychotic medication and there is no association with an increase of breast cancer as a result.
It is best for her to go back to her psychiatrist and have her re-evaluated. Perhaps they will give her an alternative medication with less/manageable side effect profile.
By all means she should stay on her medications, sometimes side effects are not pleasant, but on the correct medication you have a better quality of life. Thinking she will get breast cancer could be paranoia, someone should tell her doctor about her breast cancer concerns, and all should be concerned about her not taking her meds. Her doctor needs to know all of this.
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Bipolar related?
Anyone with bipolar ever experience anything similar to this? During certain periods, though not all the time, finding it hard to be in public. Becoming hyper aware of the movement of people around you... people moving too fast from behind you, people moving too slow in front of you, people getting too close to you or paying too much attention to you in general. As opposed to social anxiety though, not fear, just discomfort and irritation, at the extreme wanting to lash out or yell at people.
Answer:
Hi Hap.:
Yes, I know exactly how you feel sometimes. I have Bipolar 1 severe and at times my sensory system does become hyper-focused and it is actually very bothersome to me. For example, as u mentioned at times you just want to lash out...Yup, I feel that way also.
From all the wonderful things Bipolar has brought to our lives, I fin that when this happens to be I also get very frustrated with myself personally because I know it is not rational and there is no need for me to feel this way, but I do feel this way and I can't stop it when it happens and it just plain stinks.
And please may I address this portion to Diane, with absolutely no disrespect meant in any way to you, but I must say these few things.
First off, we are NOT "Bipolars" we are people who have a disorder called Bipolar. We are people, we are NOT the illness or disorder. There is a very big difference in "being" Bipolar (which none of us want) and being a person or group of people WITH Bipolar. We are people too.
Secondly, when and if a person WITH Bipolar has a hyper-sensory episode, well it is just exactly what it is. It is a hyper-sensory episode. Plain and simple, it is what it is and nothing more than that.
Having a hyper-sensory episode is in no way shape or form a psychotic feature. Psychosis is defined as per Wikipedia as:
People experiencing a psychotic episode may report hallucinations or delusional beliefs (e.g., grandiose or paranoid delusions), and may exhibit personality changes and disorganized thinking, loss of contact with reality...
Having an episode of heightened sensory awareness has absolutely NOTHING to do with a psychotic episode or psychosis.
Be safe and be well
That sounds like a "normal" thing for bipolar. My best friend has bipolar and there are many times that she is unable to be in public.
That called anti-social dear and yes its completely normal to have that when you are bi-polar or have other anxiety issues.I have panic attacks and I get very anti-social in public!
Impatience, irritability and some paranoid ideation are common during manic and depressive episodes.
Some bi polars do and it is call bipolar with psychotic features. Go talk to your Dr this is help for this
Answer:
Hi Hap.:
Yes, I know exactly how you feel sometimes. I have Bipolar 1 severe and at times my sensory system does become hyper-focused and it is actually very bothersome to me. For example, as u mentioned at times you just want to lash out...Yup, I feel that way also.
From all the wonderful things Bipolar has brought to our lives, I fin that when this happens to be I also get very frustrated with myself personally because I know it is not rational and there is no need for me to feel this way, but I do feel this way and I can't stop it when it happens and it just plain stinks.
And please may I address this portion to Diane, with absolutely no disrespect meant in any way to you, but I must say these few things.
First off, we are NOT "Bipolars" we are people who have a disorder called Bipolar. We are people, we are NOT the illness or disorder. There is a very big difference in "being" Bipolar (which none of us want) and being a person or group of people WITH Bipolar. We are people too.
Secondly, when and if a person WITH Bipolar has a hyper-sensory episode, well it is just exactly what it is. It is a hyper-sensory episode. Plain and simple, it is what it is and nothing more than that.
Having a hyper-sensory episode is in no way shape or form a psychotic feature. Psychosis is defined as per Wikipedia as:
People experiencing a psychotic episode may report hallucinations or delusional beliefs (e.g., grandiose or paranoid delusions), and may exhibit personality changes and disorganized thinking, loss of contact with reality...
Having an episode of heightened sensory awareness has absolutely NOTHING to do with a psychotic episode or psychosis.
Be safe and be well
That sounds like a "normal" thing for bipolar. My best friend has bipolar and there are many times that she is unable to be in public.
That called anti-social dear and yes its completely normal to have that when you are bi-polar or have other anxiety issues.I have panic attacks and I get very anti-social in public!
Impatience, irritability and some paranoid ideation are common during manic and depressive episodes.
Some bi polars do and it is call bipolar with psychotic features. Go talk to your Dr this is help for this
Bi-Polar or ADD?
About 6 months ago my 8 y/o was diagnosed with ADD %26 was put on meds. She immediately became extremely emotional, so her Dr. switched her meds around. Which didn't make anything better. I could definately see a difference in her attention spans, but she was still very moody %26 emotional. So, I took her to another Dr., this time a Pschologist. He told me that Bi-Polar is sometimes misdiagnosed as ADD, %26 would like to test her for BP. I picked up some books about it at the library %26 have done some research online. My question is.If a child is Bi-Polar, do they experience ALL of the symtopms or just some. She's definately not hearing voices or having haluasanation
Answer:
I think:
everything provides from child traumas
the way parents treat child's, because, every human been is different from another, and the individual shod be respected, in their moods, sometimes they are running from missed understood, from other people.
those Desi's names , are just good to justify something, we don't understand in human beaver.
there are exepcions, each case is a different case, every body needs love respect, care, and be well treated, and not been saw as a different anormal human been.
Im bipolar and don't have hallucinations or hear voices...you don't have to have all the symptoms...but it's always best for a doctor to make that decision...not a bad idea to bring it up.
well, some people say theyre the same, but i think that they are different. have you ever considered the fact that your daughter is a manic depressive? i thought that i was bipolar but i didnt hear voices or anything, at one moment i would just be happy and another moment really depressed for no reason. just ask her calmy and seriously how she feels and try to diagnose her yourself, you know her best after all.
find the book titled raising your spirited child. your child may just be very emotional don't rush into giving her drugs that could have life long effects on her
there are 2 types of bipolar and type 1 could be misinterpreted as ADD
There is a wide range of signs and symptoms with bi-polar disorder. Some people have a cluster of symptoms, others have only one or two.
One of the big problems with psych meds and children is that children have immature livers. This matters because drugs are metabolized with the aid of liver enzymes. Another major factor is that the brain isn't mature either. Both these factors can cause medications to have what are called paradoxical effects. It can be challenging to find the right meds for a child.
Keep doing your own research - psychology is interesting anyway.
You can get a lot of information from NAMI, the National Association for the Mentally Ill.
i dont hallucinate (that usually comes from manic spells where evrythn just goes haywire in your head)...she wont get all the symptoms no.
have a look here or type in bipolar disorder in google:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar...
try omega 3 supplements too (cod liver oil but u can buy omega 3 on its own) this helps so many issues like ADD and brainy stuff especially with children.
Not only can Bi Polar be misdiagnosed as ADHD it is somewhat common for people with ADHD to also be Bi Polar.
Both are treatable and if you want to look on the bright side, most people with ADHD and Bi Polar score very high on intelligence tests.
The voices and hallucinations are the least common symptoms. yes you can be Bi Polar with out the.
any diagnoses is definatley person to person some people may expierece somethings while others dont. i find it remarkable that they found this is youre 8 year old. Bi- polar is a very scary situation for the sufferer. im 19 and i can tell you that getting a proper diagnosis is hard and people rarley get it. you may want to take youre child to a professional that deals with childrens mental health. See i moved alot when i was younger and i saw alot of differnt doctors so ive been basically diagnosed with everything under the sun. but when i went to see an psychartrist they pin pointed my diagnosis and were able to help me with out being pill pushers if you will. I think that would be youre best bet. and not to sound rude or ignorant but if youre daughter was hearing voices she would probibly not be able to vocalize that to you. you must understand any one with a mental problem is confused them selves and dont know whats going on. I know youre her mother and it would seem like she would be able to tell you. But if a person doesnt understand what is happening they certainly cant tell a 3rd party. But honestly i would take her in and get some one that understand both diagnoses to help they will be able to help her alot more then a family doctor.
Most people with psych issues do not experience all of the symptoms that can indicate the disorder...just a substantial number of them. Bipolar 1 can include hallucinations and delusions but doesnt always.bipolar 2 does not have psychotic symptoms.
I've read that up to 80% of children eventually diagnosed with bipolar were first diagnosed with ADHD.
Good for you for trying to get her the help she needs. Proper treatment can be life changing.
ps...manic depression IS bipolar disorder. It's the former official name for the disorder.
there is a big difference between ADD and bipolar. actually its the opposite.
the medicine of ADD may cause haluasanation if she wasnt ADDer especially if the medicine is stimulants
I am BiPolar and have a BiPolar child. NO you do not have to have all of the symptoms. My son was actually dx'd as ODD first, but I just couldn't do meds, he was only 4. The symptoms kept changing and his attention span kept getting worse, so I took him to a Behaviorist who then sent me to a Psychologist because she thought he had BiPolar disorder. Yea I know what a run around!! He is much better now, and I did not keep him on meds. He started on meds at 8, but things just got worse as far as emotions and such. I took him off meds and then we just did behavioral therapy. He is now 10, and I do not regret any of my decisions. He is a happy young person now.
Good Luck
Momma P
May Angels Walk Beside You
It sounds like your kid is bi-polar. Bi polar people can be emotional one minute, angry the next, and really hyper and happy after that. ADD justs prevents people from paying attention; it has nothing to do with emotions.
Bi-Polar is a general diagnosis %26 they are many "subtitles" to it, if that makes sense. There is Bipolar1, Bipolar2, Bipolar w/schizo-affective tendencies, etc. There is also the real fun one (that I have) called "rapid recycling" (which means you can go up to manic %26 down to depressed several times in a day.)
Your child may not have all the symptoms, only a few.
Here's my opinion, take it or leave it, but coming from someone whose been dealing with this for all her life, if I were a Mom, here's what I'd do: go to knowthecause.com %26 start reading. I don't know how open you are to "alternative medicine and ideas" but I hope you will at least give it a try.
I believe ADD %26 bipolar is all nutrition re-lated (%26 fungus, as you will get from knowthecause %26 Doug Kauffman's books/shows.)
Once your child is dx'd bipolar, the dr.s will try to scare you %26 your child that she must be on meds the rest of her life. I totally disagree. Once you start on meds, you get stuck in the "med circus". Nobody will tell you about all the horrid side effects these drugs will do over time, to your mind %26 body. And they will. And the dr.s will tell you to trust them (while the pharmacuetical co.s are lining their pockets). The dr. will simply write you a Rx for another med to "counteract" the side effects of another med until you find that your child is on a whole bunch of crap %26 you won't even know who she is nor will she (they will change her personality so much).
No matter what they tell you, everything they prescribe for her will affect her personality, her growing body %26 cause some sort of permanent damage if taken long enough, as well as all being addictive in some form or another.
Another website you might want to check out is: bipolarhappens.com
All I want to get thru to you if nothing else is this: if there is any other way to treat your child w/out meds, pls try. I will help you in any way I know how, if you want email me. Just trust me, you cannot trust the psychiatrists. Not that they don't mean well but the drugs are sooo dangerous. Think of your daughter's young mind %26 growing body. You don't want to poison her.
Sorry for being so blunt but this is so serious.
No, a person doesn't have to have all of the diagnostic criteria in order to have bipolar disorder. I know many people with bipolar disorder who do not hear voices or have hallucinations.
I can see the tells of bipolar back to when I was in my teens
I am very concerned with my child inheriting this from me, so I watch -- but I am no aware that the symtoms show before the teen age years
maybe you need a second opinion
If your child is not a danger to his/herself or others you may want to consider a second and third opinion about labeling him/her. Look for counselors that specialize in learning pediatric disabilities or emotional difficulty and tend to be more holistic in their approach.
Many psychotropic drugs given to children have not been used long enough to know the long term side effects and for the ones used ten years ago they are finding undesirable long term affects. Your child is still developing so any medication given will alter his/her developing body.
If you child has symptoms such as attention deficient, have you tried to empty his/her room of everything except bed and clothes- this will help condition your child to feel sleep (not distracted) when lying down for night time. When doing homework, pick an area that is quiet and without any distracting art or toys in sight. Also plan activities at the same time each day that will use up excessive energy; I used to take my children and nephews for a daily mile walk first thing when it was my turn to baby sit. We sang songs along the way and picked different activities. Upon arrival back they got a healthy snack then were set free to play. At eight years old maybe sign your child up for a sport like soccer! (Wear them out before they could wear me out was my motto!)
As for mood swings, I used to talk quite a bit to my children and nephews. Subjects hard to broach, I would say something like “I know someone who is experiencing something like what you just had happen.” I also like to watch movies with a moral to them and discuss them afterwards.
Even if your child can be diagnosed with something, as long as he/she is productive and not a harm to anyone, I would try to avoid medications that may have long term affects. Focus on diet and what foods cause him or her to act up. Something a unsuspecting as wheat, milk products or (in my case) walnuts and eggplant can cause some strange reactions if one has an unusual allergy response to each.
Your child is still young. I would talk to as many other parents as possible (if others in the area are experiencing the same problems, maybe investigate what is in the area that may be toxic. Talk to family services and a social worker. I would exhaust all other possibilities before having my child take strong medications.
One last thought also is have his eyes checked and rule out any physical problems. If his behavior changed suddenly, also check out the school to see if something there may have cause emotional upset (new bully in town, best friend moved away. etc...)
Good luck!
Answer:
I think:
everything provides from child traumas
the way parents treat child's, because, every human been is different from another, and the individual shod be respected, in their moods, sometimes they are running from missed understood, from other people.
those Desi's names , are just good to justify something, we don't understand in human beaver.
there are exepcions, each case is a different case, every body needs love respect, care, and be well treated, and not been saw as a different anormal human been.
Im bipolar and don't have hallucinations or hear voices...you don't have to have all the symptoms...but it's always best for a doctor to make that decision...not a bad idea to bring it up.
well, some people say theyre the same, but i think that they are different. have you ever considered the fact that your daughter is a manic depressive? i thought that i was bipolar but i didnt hear voices or anything, at one moment i would just be happy and another moment really depressed for no reason. just ask her calmy and seriously how she feels and try to diagnose her yourself, you know her best after all.
find the book titled raising your spirited child. your child may just be very emotional don't rush into giving her drugs that could have life long effects on her
there are 2 types of bipolar and type 1 could be misinterpreted as ADD
There is a wide range of signs and symptoms with bi-polar disorder. Some people have a cluster of symptoms, others have only one or two.
One of the big problems with psych meds and children is that children have immature livers. This matters because drugs are metabolized with the aid of liver enzymes. Another major factor is that the brain isn't mature either. Both these factors can cause medications to have what are called paradoxical effects. It can be challenging to find the right meds for a child.
Keep doing your own research - psychology is interesting anyway.
You can get a lot of information from NAMI, the National Association for the Mentally Ill.
i dont hallucinate (that usually comes from manic spells where evrythn just goes haywire in your head)...she wont get all the symptoms no.
have a look here or type in bipolar disorder in google:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar...
try omega 3 supplements too (cod liver oil but u can buy omega 3 on its own) this helps so many issues like ADD and brainy stuff especially with children.
Not only can Bi Polar be misdiagnosed as ADHD it is somewhat common for people with ADHD to also be Bi Polar.
Both are treatable and if you want to look on the bright side, most people with ADHD and Bi Polar score very high on intelligence tests.
The voices and hallucinations are the least common symptoms. yes you can be Bi Polar with out the.
any diagnoses is definatley person to person some people may expierece somethings while others dont. i find it remarkable that they found this is youre 8 year old. Bi- polar is a very scary situation for the sufferer. im 19 and i can tell you that getting a proper diagnosis is hard and people rarley get it. you may want to take youre child to a professional that deals with childrens mental health. See i moved alot when i was younger and i saw alot of differnt doctors so ive been basically diagnosed with everything under the sun. but when i went to see an psychartrist they pin pointed my diagnosis and were able to help me with out being pill pushers if you will. I think that would be youre best bet. and not to sound rude or ignorant but if youre daughter was hearing voices she would probibly not be able to vocalize that to you. you must understand any one with a mental problem is confused them selves and dont know whats going on. I know youre her mother and it would seem like she would be able to tell you. But if a person doesnt understand what is happening they certainly cant tell a 3rd party. But honestly i would take her in and get some one that understand both diagnoses to help they will be able to help her alot more then a family doctor.
Most people with psych issues do not experience all of the symptoms that can indicate the disorder...just a substantial number of them. Bipolar 1 can include hallucinations and delusions but doesnt always.bipolar 2 does not have psychotic symptoms.
I've read that up to 80% of children eventually diagnosed with bipolar were first diagnosed with ADHD.
Good for you for trying to get her the help she needs. Proper treatment can be life changing.
ps...manic depression IS bipolar disorder. It's the former official name for the disorder.
there is a big difference between ADD and bipolar. actually its the opposite.
the medicine of ADD may cause haluasanation if she wasnt ADDer especially if the medicine is stimulants
I am BiPolar and have a BiPolar child. NO you do not have to have all of the symptoms. My son was actually dx'd as ODD first, but I just couldn't do meds, he was only 4. The symptoms kept changing and his attention span kept getting worse, so I took him to a Behaviorist who then sent me to a Psychologist because she thought he had BiPolar disorder. Yea I know what a run around!! He is much better now, and I did not keep him on meds. He started on meds at 8, but things just got worse as far as emotions and such. I took him off meds and then we just did behavioral therapy. He is now 10, and I do not regret any of my decisions. He is a happy young person now.
Good Luck
Momma P
May Angels Walk Beside You
It sounds like your kid is bi-polar. Bi polar people can be emotional one minute, angry the next, and really hyper and happy after that. ADD justs prevents people from paying attention; it has nothing to do with emotions.
Bi-Polar is a general diagnosis %26 they are many "subtitles" to it, if that makes sense. There is Bipolar1, Bipolar2, Bipolar w/schizo-affective tendencies, etc. There is also the real fun one (that I have) called "rapid recycling" (which means you can go up to manic %26 down to depressed several times in a day.)
Your child may not have all the symptoms, only a few.
Here's my opinion, take it or leave it, but coming from someone whose been dealing with this for all her life, if I were a Mom, here's what I'd do: go to knowthecause.com %26 start reading. I don't know how open you are to "alternative medicine and ideas" but I hope you will at least give it a try.
I believe ADD %26 bipolar is all nutrition re-lated (%26 fungus, as you will get from knowthecause %26 Doug Kauffman's books/shows.)
Once your child is dx'd bipolar, the dr.s will try to scare you %26 your child that she must be on meds the rest of her life. I totally disagree. Once you start on meds, you get stuck in the "med circus". Nobody will tell you about all the horrid side effects these drugs will do over time, to your mind %26 body. And they will. And the dr.s will tell you to trust them (while the pharmacuetical co.s are lining their pockets). The dr. will simply write you a Rx for another med to "counteract" the side effects of another med until you find that your child is on a whole bunch of crap %26 you won't even know who she is nor will she (they will change her personality so much).
No matter what they tell you, everything they prescribe for her will affect her personality, her growing body %26 cause some sort of permanent damage if taken long enough, as well as all being addictive in some form or another.
Another website you might want to check out is: bipolarhappens.com
All I want to get thru to you if nothing else is this: if there is any other way to treat your child w/out meds, pls try. I will help you in any way I know how, if you want email me. Just trust me, you cannot trust the psychiatrists. Not that they don't mean well but the drugs are sooo dangerous. Think of your daughter's young mind %26 growing body. You don't want to poison her.
Sorry for being so blunt but this is so serious.
No, a person doesn't have to have all of the diagnostic criteria in order to have bipolar disorder. I know many people with bipolar disorder who do not hear voices or have hallucinations.
I can see the tells of bipolar back to when I was in my teens
I am very concerned with my child inheriting this from me, so I watch -- but I am no aware that the symtoms show before the teen age years
maybe you need a second opinion
If your child is not a danger to his/herself or others you may want to consider a second and third opinion about labeling him/her. Look for counselors that specialize in learning pediatric disabilities or emotional difficulty and tend to be more holistic in their approach.
Many psychotropic drugs given to children have not been used long enough to know the long term side effects and for the ones used ten years ago they are finding undesirable long term affects. Your child is still developing so any medication given will alter his/her developing body.
If you child has symptoms such as attention deficient, have you tried to empty his/her room of everything except bed and clothes- this will help condition your child to feel sleep (not distracted) when lying down for night time. When doing homework, pick an area that is quiet and without any distracting art or toys in sight. Also plan activities at the same time each day that will use up excessive energy; I used to take my children and nephews for a daily mile walk first thing when it was my turn to baby sit. We sang songs along the way and picked different activities. Upon arrival back they got a healthy snack then were set free to play. At eight years old maybe sign your child up for a sport like soccer! (Wear them out before they could wear me out was my motto!)
As for mood swings, I used to talk quite a bit to my children and nephews. Subjects hard to broach, I would say something like “I know someone who is experiencing something like what you just had happen.” I also like to watch movies with a moral to them and discuss them afterwards.
Even if your child can be diagnosed with something, as long as he/she is productive and not a harm to anyone, I would try to avoid medications that may have long term affects. Focus on diet and what foods cause him or her to act up. Something a unsuspecting as wheat, milk products or (in my case) walnuts and eggplant can cause some strange reactions if one has an unusual allergy response to each.
Your child is still young. I would talk to as many other parents as possible (if others in the area are experiencing the same problems, maybe investigate what is in the area that may be toxic. Talk to family services and a social worker. I would exhaust all other possibilities before having my child take strong medications.
One last thought also is have his eyes checked and rule out any physical problems. If his behavior changed suddenly, also check out the school to see if something there may have cause emotional upset (new bully in town, best friend moved away. etc...)
Good luck!
Bipolar Meds?
Has anyone gained weight while on meds for bipolar ? If so did u ever lose the weight and if so how..
Answer:
Unfortunately yes and unfortunately no. However, start off with low dosage. From what I was told, it is easier to gain with the higher dosages, so I take the lowest dosage and try to lose weight one day at a time. I know weight gain is crucial to me and with medication comes weight gain. This becomes a vicious circle because weight gain brings me down. Luckily, the lowest dosage helps me function and I can try to lose weight, but if you start and stay on a low dosage and its helping you, you have a "slimmer" chance of gaining any weight. Good Luck!
I haven't been on bipolar meds, but have been on anti-depressents.
I found that when I went on them my lifestyle changed.
I ate differently and exercised differently and I put on weight.
This may be the same for you.
I did lose the weight by adjusting my lifestyle.
Some medication have side effects, which are temporary. Do let your doctor who prescribe the medication for you, know about what you are going through. And some medications for bipolar symptoms need a little time to take effects and a little time to lessen the dosage according to your doctor's prescription of your condition.
You should eat a balanced diet, alcohol free, and also not smoke while you are on medication.
discuss with your doctor.
GAINED WEIGHT- NEVER LOST IT BC OF THOSE THINGS
I've been on bipolar meds for a few years and I didn't notice any weight gain. My doctor made sure the meds he put me on were weight neutral because he knew it was a concern of mine.
Answer:
Unfortunately yes and unfortunately no. However, start off with low dosage. From what I was told, it is easier to gain with the higher dosages, so I take the lowest dosage and try to lose weight one day at a time. I know weight gain is crucial to me and with medication comes weight gain. This becomes a vicious circle because weight gain brings me down. Luckily, the lowest dosage helps me function and I can try to lose weight, but if you start and stay on a low dosage and its helping you, you have a "slimmer" chance of gaining any weight. Good Luck!
I haven't been on bipolar meds, but have been on anti-depressents.
I found that when I went on them my lifestyle changed.
I ate differently and exercised differently and I put on weight.
This may be the same for you.
I did lose the weight by adjusting my lifestyle.
Some medication have side effects, which are temporary. Do let your doctor who prescribe the medication for you, know about what you are going through. And some medications for bipolar symptoms need a little time to take effects and a little time to lessen the dosage according to your doctor's prescription of your condition.
You should eat a balanced diet, alcohol free, and also not smoke while you are on medication.
discuss with your doctor.
GAINED WEIGHT- NEVER LOST IT BC OF THOSE THINGS
I've been on bipolar meds for a few years and I didn't notice any weight gain. My doctor made sure the meds he put me on were weight neutral because he knew it was a concern of mine.
Bipolar intense depression, can't stop crying, not only do I feel all alone?
I am all alone on yet another holiday, it's raining, dark, people are outside enjoying the holiday, fireworks going (I'm terrified of the booms now since last weeks drama...
What I really just want to do is...
cry till I can't cry any more but the just cry more and more...
I want my jammies on, I want to lay down and not nap(did that 3 x today already) lay on the couch, crawl under the quilt and put it over my head and sleep. I just want to sleep everything away ( I know I can't, but the desire is very strong). when it's time, I'll take my meds, maybe a sleeper to make me sleep and I just don't know.
I am tired of the battles to be stable, tired of the battles to be happy. Tired of how trouble always seems to find me even though I make it a point to stay away from anything that I think will trigger a cycle.
I'm close to giving up.
Yes, I see psych, PCP, therapist. Yes, I am medicated for my Bipolar.
Just need support I guess. I just want happiness
Kindness only pls
Answer:
Hey Girlfriend ! 1st - ur not alone ... u have Me. (and many many ppl who admire, respect n need u as well.) U have the 'tools' - the understanding n the awareness 2 cope with what u r feeling. I Know it is difficult n fustrating. We r so much alike. Happiness is what I always pray 4 myself. Just remember God will not let u fall. U have come so far, n conquered so much. Im always here if u need me. =)
Love ya
J
I have a family, and am alone yet again as well. I guess I am just too stubborn to go and be around people. It's not so much that I am afraid of being misunderstood, it's that I don't care what most people think. I for one take comfort in my anger, and holding it back seems to give me the control. Let's face it, the world is asking for all kinds of things, but we don't have to give it what it wants.
you see the world in only a bad way go out and do something that you want to do. Forget about everythimg else.
You can e-mail me anytime, I have Bipolar Disorder and I'm also a Therapist. I know exactly how you feel. Things will get better, I promise.
Its not what you think. It's a hormonal imbalance.
I felt it coming on to me and thought why is this feeling coming over me. It was a chemical imbalance. If you are taking meds (Prozac...etc) take them when prescribed. and think of happy things (sic) but KNOW why and how your body reacts to sight, sound, food, drink etc...
PS it was a beautiful sunny day today but I looked for a cloud just so I could say it was horrable outside.
When I feel depressed, I go for a 1-2 hour jog (preferably in a park). If you don't think you can handle that, then walk. It takes everything out of me but I feel alot better afterwards. This goes for just about any stressful activity.
I got the same problem than you only I'm not medicated for it. I usualy stop and think. One thing very good is when you forget about problems and meds. Just live your life like you're someone else.Make more time for yourself and leave the rest in God's hands.
My teen is bipolar. He has been thru some really, really bad times. Hospitalized a few times, etc. etc.
He's doing so well now! We finally found the right meds. He still is in therapy. It has been a slow climb out of hell.
Please don't give up! I have suffered along with my son. Besides that, I have had periods of depression in my own life when I felt like I couldn't go on. But now my life is so good.
I know a really good online support group. If you email me and tell me your age I can send you a link. Or you can go to Yahoo Groups and look up Bipolar. I belong to a group that is for parents with bipolar teens ( called BipolarParentsT), but a lot of the parents are bipolar, too. There are groups for bipolar adults, BP teens, etc. etc. If you go to the home page for BipolarParentsT it lists the names of the other groups.
I think if you know you aren't alone with your feelings that things would be easier, don't you?
silkysamadhi@yahoo.com
Yes, life is no good. Giving birth is an act of cruelty and now you, even as an adult, must suffer at the hands of your parents. Well, you don't have to suffer. You see, there is always death.
I never understood the point in talking someone who is clearly always going to be suffering. I care unlike some of these heartless bastards that tell you, 'NO, You must suffer for the next some odd years until you die of cancer." Like dying of cancer is that much better than dying of bipolar disorder.
Do what you need to do and happiness? It's a fleeting moment, don't seek happiness it will come and go, seek a deeper sense of contentment until you die, but you're going to die either way.
God's greatest gift to all of us is that of CHOICE. If you can think it, you can create it. If you can think it, you can do it. If you can think it, you can feel it. If you can think it, you can be it. If you can think to be well, you will be.
But don't take my word for it, think it for yourself and see what happens. It's your choice... think it, or not.
I have bipolar disorder and get terrible depressions like you do. I went 3 years straight like you describe with almost no days of relief. For me what has finally helped is 125 mg of lamictal and 600 mg of lithium, which really have helped the depression end of things. Both those meds are pretty good on depression. Also, you should NOT be on antidepressants if you are bipolar (true for most people - bipolar doc experts think they are too destabilizing).
Now for social support what I do is go to a local drop in center, which is a gathering place for people with mental illnesses. We play games like bingo and poker etc. etc we had fireworks last night and are going on a trip to tour an underground iron mine in a couple weeks. Try googling "consumer mental (your state or city)" and you may find a consumer group like that in your area. You may also be eligible for a social worker to visit you in your home and help you with everyday sh*t that is so hard to do when you are depressed. Plus you get some more visiting in.
I dunno, I did all the things I should to feel better, exercised, ate right, got lots of sun and used a light box, got social support, etc. but only the meds did the trick. Are you telling your doc how desperate it is? Maybe you would benefit from a second opinion. Social workers usually know who the good docs are, too.
I hope you feel better. Keeping busy with stuff you like does help distract, and getting out with others distracts even tho as soon as there is a lull you're ready to suicide again.
All the best to you.
Try this number when youget down and out. I'm bi-polar, and beleive me, I've been down at rock bottom too. When I lost my daughter to a miscarriage, I wanted to die with her. I wanted to lay in bed all day... cry and cry and cry, and then cry some more, but this number helped me to deal with this. 1-505-277-3013
{{{{ U}}}} I am bipolar... and have only been properly medicated for the past nine years. Before that...I began each day making a suicide plan. It made me feel 'safe' to know that I could die. Then I could put it aside and get on with living. We are alone by CHOICE. There are a thousand people needing you to get out there and help them right NOW. When we choose to help others, we find new and joyous life for ourselves. My closest friend received a death sentence yesterday; they will operate on her for her inoperable colon cancer to make it 'easier' for her. I sat out in the parking lot and cried 'til my eyes bled...but my sorrow will not make it one inch easier for her. My JOB is to get past how I feel and to make each day a bit easier for her; feed her pets, take her pics of her garden... and love her. Your JOB is to find something...someone...OUTSIDE yourself to care for. You are in my heart. Hugs, Gina C.
I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Bipolar is so misunderstood, my ex-husband also suffers from it. The lows can be unbearable but it will get better. If I can help you in anyway please let me know. Good luck
I don't wanna sound patronising but I know how you feel to an extent.
I've been thru quite a few bouts of depression now, I've tried seeking help etc, but the most recent time I just ended up running into brick walls trying to get help, i usually get shoved a box of pills and told, here you go these will hopefully make you feel better..
well f*****g brilliant, I felt so abandoned and worthless when i'm given a pills and left too it, my mum is very supportive with me, and has helped to a degree but I tend to withdraw into myself alot.
During a previous bout seeing a psychatrist helped as he helped me work through some of my problems.
I was ok for a while, then reached the stage where i'd cry for no reason, I had trouble doing anything, I was constantly sleepy etc.
the only way i've found thats helped me is to try and keep busy thinking about other things, and the support of a few good people
What I really just want to do is...
cry till I can't cry any more but the just cry more and more...
I want my jammies on, I want to lay down and not nap(did that 3 x today already) lay on the couch, crawl under the quilt and put it over my head and sleep. I just want to sleep everything away ( I know I can't, but the desire is very strong). when it's time, I'll take my meds, maybe a sleeper to make me sleep and I just don't know.
I am tired of the battles to be stable, tired of the battles to be happy. Tired of how trouble always seems to find me even though I make it a point to stay away from anything that I think will trigger a cycle.
I'm close to giving up.
Yes, I see psych, PCP, therapist. Yes, I am medicated for my Bipolar.
Just need support I guess. I just want happiness
Kindness only pls
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Hey Girlfriend ! 1st - ur not alone ... u have Me. (and many many ppl who admire, respect n need u as well.) U have the 'tools' - the understanding n the awareness 2 cope with what u r feeling. I Know it is difficult n fustrating. We r so much alike. Happiness is what I always pray 4 myself. Just remember God will not let u fall. U have come so far, n conquered so much. Im always here if u need me. =)
Love ya
J
I have a family, and am alone yet again as well. I guess I am just too stubborn to go and be around people. It's not so much that I am afraid of being misunderstood, it's that I don't care what most people think. I for one take comfort in my anger, and holding it back seems to give me the control. Let's face it, the world is asking for all kinds of things, but we don't have to give it what it wants.
you see the world in only a bad way go out and do something that you want to do. Forget about everythimg else.
You can e-mail me anytime, I have Bipolar Disorder and I'm also a Therapist. I know exactly how you feel. Things will get better, I promise.
Its not what you think. It's a hormonal imbalance.
I felt it coming on to me and thought why is this feeling coming over me. It was a chemical imbalance. If you are taking meds (Prozac...etc) take them when prescribed. and think of happy things (sic) but KNOW why and how your body reacts to sight, sound, food, drink etc...
PS it was a beautiful sunny day today but I looked for a cloud just so I could say it was horrable outside.
When I feel depressed, I go for a 1-2 hour jog (preferably in a park). If you don't think you can handle that, then walk. It takes everything out of me but I feel alot better afterwards. This goes for just about any stressful activity.
I got the same problem than you only I'm not medicated for it. I usualy stop and think. One thing very good is when you forget about problems and meds. Just live your life like you're someone else.Make more time for yourself and leave the rest in God's hands.
My teen is bipolar. He has been thru some really, really bad times. Hospitalized a few times, etc. etc.
He's doing so well now! We finally found the right meds. He still is in therapy. It has been a slow climb out of hell.
Please don't give up! I have suffered along with my son. Besides that, I have had periods of depression in my own life when I felt like I couldn't go on. But now my life is so good.
I know a really good online support group. If you email me and tell me your age I can send you a link. Or you can go to Yahoo Groups and look up Bipolar. I belong to a group that is for parents with bipolar teens ( called BipolarParentsT), but a lot of the parents are bipolar, too. There are groups for bipolar adults, BP teens, etc. etc. If you go to the home page for BipolarParentsT it lists the names of the other groups.
I think if you know you aren't alone with your feelings that things would be easier, don't you?
silkysamadhi@yahoo.com
Yes, life is no good. Giving birth is an act of cruelty and now you, even as an adult, must suffer at the hands of your parents. Well, you don't have to suffer. You see, there is always death.
I never understood the point in talking someone who is clearly always going to be suffering. I care unlike some of these heartless bastards that tell you, 'NO, You must suffer for the next some odd years until you die of cancer." Like dying of cancer is that much better than dying of bipolar disorder.
Do what you need to do and happiness? It's a fleeting moment, don't seek happiness it will come and go, seek a deeper sense of contentment until you die, but you're going to die either way.
God's greatest gift to all of us is that of CHOICE. If you can think it, you can create it. If you can think it, you can do it. If you can think it, you can feel it. If you can think it, you can be it. If you can think to be well, you will be.
But don't take my word for it, think it for yourself and see what happens. It's your choice... think it, or not.
I have bipolar disorder and get terrible depressions like you do. I went 3 years straight like you describe with almost no days of relief. For me what has finally helped is 125 mg of lamictal and 600 mg of lithium, which really have helped the depression end of things. Both those meds are pretty good on depression. Also, you should NOT be on antidepressants if you are bipolar (true for most people - bipolar doc experts think they are too destabilizing).
Now for social support what I do is go to a local drop in center, which is a gathering place for people with mental illnesses. We play games like bingo and poker etc. etc we had fireworks last night and are going on a trip to tour an underground iron mine in a couple weeks. Try googling "consumer mental (your state or city)" and you may find a consumer group like that in your area. You may also be eligible for a social worker to visit you in your home and help you with everyday sh*t that is so hard to do when you are depressed. Plus you get some more visiting in.
I dunno, I did all the things I should to feel better, exercised, ate right, got lots of sun and used a light box, got social support, etc. but only the meds did the trick. Are you telling your doc how desperate it is? Maybe you would benefit from a second opinion. Social workers usually know who the good docs are, too.
I hope you feel better. Keeping busy with stuff you like does help distract, and getting out with others distracts even tho as soon as there is a lull you're ready to suicide again.
All the best to you.
Try this number when youget down and out. I'm bi-polar, and beleive me, I've been down at rock bottom too. When I lost my daughter to a miscarriage, I wanted to die with her. I wanted to lay in bed all day... cry and cry and cry, and then cry some more, but this number helped me to deal with this. 1-505-277-3013
{{{{ U}}}} I am bipolar... and have only been properly medicated for the past nine years. Before that...I began each day making a suicide plan. It made me feel 'safe' to know that I could die. Then I could put it aside and get on with living. We are alone by CHOICE. There are a thousand people needing you to get out there and help them right NOW. When we choose to help others, we find new and joyous life for ourselves. My closest friend received a death sentence yesterday; they will operate on her for her inoperable colon cancer to make it 'easier' for her. I sat out in the parking lot and cried 'til my eyes bled...but my sorrow will not make it one inch easier for her. My JOB is to get past how I feel and to make each day a bit easier for her; feed her pets, take her pics of her garden... and love her. Your JOB is to find something...someone...OUTSIDE yourself to care for. You are in my heart. Hugs, Gina C.
I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Bipolar is so misunderstood, my ex-husband also suffers from it. The lows can be unbearable but it will get better. If I can help you in anyway please let me know. Good luck
I don't wanna sound patronising but I know how you feel to an extent.
I've been thru quite a few bouts of depression now, I've tried seeking help etc, but the most recent time I just ended up running into brick walls trying to get help, i usually get shoved a box of pills and told, here you go these will hopefully make you feel better..
well f*****g brilliant, I felt so abandoned and worthless when i'm given a pills and left too it, my mum is very supportive with me, and has helped to a degree but I tend to withdraw into myself alot.
During a previous bout seeing a psychatrist helped as he helped me work through some of my problems.
I was ok for a while, then reached the stage where i'd cry for no reason, I had trouble doing anything, I was constantly sleepy etc.
the only way i've found thats helped me is to try and keep busy thinking about other things, and the support of a few good people
Bipolar husband taking ambien during the day?
we are in the final stages of the marriage (too much insanity to deal with). he took an ambien at 10:00 am before meeting me and my son for breakfast, came in stoned (waiter had to drive him home). i don't have access to his doctor (hippa laws, etc.). he is also having weird dreams at night (he's not sure if he's awake looking for his gun or dreaming that he's looking for his gun). i sometimes sleep with my door locked (we sleep in separate rooms). he also obsesses over food and flavored water (always thinks someone is drinking "his" water). bottom line: meds aren't helping. is there anything i can do to help this man?
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My hubby is bipolar and it's a constant struggle. What medications is your husband taking? I hope Ambien isn't all. I would ask why he took an Ambien in the day, but after living with a bipolar husband for all these years, I realize that there's probably no explanation for his actions.
A few things that might help:
1. If you are in the final stages of your marriage anyway, separate from him if you can. Either get him out of the house or get yourself and your child(ren) out of the house.
2. You can call his counselor or doctor and talk to them. Tell them just to listen. They aren't breaking HIPAA laws if they don't tell you anything. Just preface your statement by saying that you are aware of patient privacy laws but you must tell them something about your husband that pertains to his safety and medical care. You can also call and have your hubby committed for a 72 hour observation period.
3. If the Ambien is not his prescription, lock it up or get rid of it. Keep all drugs that aren't his away from him. If he is on meds, make sure you have an alarm clock set to remind him to take his meds at the same time every day. I have a friend who had REALLY strange and violent dreams on Ambien. I take it and have no problem, but I have really strange dreams when I take Trazadone. My husband has had luck with Rozeram. It helps you get to REM sleep.
4. If he's obsessing over his food and water, he sounds like he is dealing with paranoia. Is he doing illegal drugs? If so, this could be contributing to the mental breakdown he seems to be experiencing. Reassure him that even though things aren't good between you, you would never do anything to hurt him.
I think it's time you get yourself out of this sinking ship of a relationship and call whoever you can to get your hubby help. He needs to be seeing a professional and having his medication adjusted and monitored.
Good luck! :)
take him off druggie and go rehab
Unfortunate. But nothing you can do.
It doesn't sound like it.
If you still care about him at all, you should maybe see about having him declared mentally unstable or clinically insane, and get power of attorney over him.
Considering what you've told me, it doesn't sound like it would be that hard to do.
Then you would be able to force him into treatment.
It's up to you.
My first thought, are you safe staying?
It appears he needs inpatient psychiatric help. The ambien during the day is a red flag.
Is involuntary commitment an option?
go with him to the fam doc or to the ER and let them know what is going on. Perhaps he needs a short stay in hospital to get the right meds. Bipolar does not mean he has to have delusions or be scary; if he is on proper treatment. The over whelming majority are help positively with proper meds and consistent follow up. You need to do this for your son and for yourself AND for him. I think it is terrible that he has not received the proper treatment. If he does not go for treatment then I suggest you get yourself to the family doctor and tell him what is going on and that you need help. It is the responsibility of the family doctor to treat the entire family. A therapist/doctor needs to explain to him that to keep proper family attachments you must commit to proper treatment and medication. I don't believe meds aren't helping. I believe he is not on the proper meds and doseage.
Sounds like he's manic and possibly psychotic (paranoid). It is not unususal for people with a BP illness to abuse drugs to rid themselves of the symptoms. Ambien is a hypmotic used as a sleep aide. He is abusing Ambien he is using it during the day.
If he is suicidal or doing that poorly (and may well be), call someone (mobile crisis intervention) so that he can be hospitalized and stabilized on meds. Meds will work if he is on the right ones or has the right diagnosis. You can also call his doctor and tell him how he is - he can call your husband or guide you.
Best wishes
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My hubby is bipolar and it's a constant struggle. What medications is your husband taking? I hope Ambien isn't all. I would ask why he took an Ambien in the day, but after living with a bipolar husband for all these years, I realize that there's probably no explanation for his actions.
A few things that might help:
1. If you are in the final stages of your marriage anyway, separate from him if you can. Either get him out of the house or get yourself and your child(ren) out of the house.
2. You can call his counselor or doctor and talk to them. Tell them just to listen. They aren't breaking HIPAA laws if they don't tell you anything. Just preface your statement by saying that you are aware of patient privacy laws but you must tell them something about your husband that pertains to his safety and medical care. You can also call and have your hubby committed for a 72 hour observation period.
3. If the Ambien is not his prescription, lock it up or get rid of it. Keep all drugs that aren't his away from him. If he is on meds, make sure you have an alarm clock set to remind him to take his meds at the same time every day. I have a friend who had REALLY strange and violent dreams on Ambien. I take it and have no problem, but I have really strange dreams when I take Trazadone. My husband has had luck with Rozeram. It helps you get to REM sleep.
4. If he's obsessing over his food and water, he sounds like he is dealing with paranoia. Is he doing illegal drugs? If so, this could be contributing to the mental breakdown he seems to be experiencing. Reassure him that even though things aren't good between you, you would never do anything to hurt him.
I think it's time you get yourself out of this sinking ship of a relationship and call whoever you can to get your hubby help. He needs to be seeing a professional and having his medication adjusted and monitored.
Good luck! :)
take him off druggie and go rehab
Unfortunate. But nothing you can do.
It doesn't sound like it.
If you still care about him at all, you should maybe see about having him declared mentally unstable or clinically insane, and get power of attorney over him.
Considering what you've told me, it doesn't sound like it would be that hard to do.
Then you would be able to force him into treatment.
It's up to you.
My first thought, are you safe staying?
It appears he needs inpatient psychiatric help. The ambien during the day is a red flag.
Is involuntary commitment an option?
go with him to the fam doc or to the ER and let them know what is going on. Perhaps he needs a short stay in hospital to get the right meds. Bipolar does not mean he has to have delusions or be scary; if he is on proper treatment. The over whelming majority are help positively with proper meds and consistent follow up. You need to do this for your son and for yourself AND for him. I think it is terrible that he has not received the proper treatment. If he does not go for treatment then I suggest you get yourself to the family doctor and tell him what is going on and that you need help. It is the responsibility of the family doctor to treat the entire family. A therapist/doctor needs to explain to him that to keep proper family attachments you must commit to proper treatment and medication. I don't believe meds aren't helping. I believe he is not on the proper meds and doseage.
Sounds like he's manic and possibly psychotic (paranoid). It is not unususal for people with a BP illness to abuse drugs to rid themselves of the symptoms. Ambien is a hypmotic used as a sleep aide. He is abusing Ambien he is using it during the day.
If he is suicidal or doing that poorly (and may well be), call someone (mobile crisis intervention) so that he can be hospitalized and stabilized on meds. Meds will work if he is on the right ones or has the right diagnosis. You can also call his doctor and tell him how he is - he can call your husband or guide you.
Best wishes
Bipolar help please?
Im looking for any advice on understanding bipolar %26 maybe someone to talk to about the subject asap.
I have been in a relationship were my boyfriend is bipolar for over 3 years some times its easy to deal with and times like this it isn't im lookin for any adice to help him ex: med advice, every day living, understand mood swings ect
Answer:
Well I am Bipolar,and I was diagnosed back in 2000,and and when I look back I may have had it all the way back to my childhood but back than health professionals did not have a name for it as of yet.
But like your boyfriend I have mood swings that would scare the hell out of people from severe to docile and you never knew heck I never knew which person would come out of me or what would trigger me to go off and like I said when I look back on this I was this way as a child and I am talking back in the 1960's ok!
Have you gotten any literature on line or from a health professional understanding the different moods of Bipolar disorder that would help you a whole lot in understanding your boyfriend for one thing.
Has he sought professional help for this there are good medications that will help him control his moods and live a more serene daily life and help you as well because you need to take time yourself and learn about it as well because he could have from mild to severe to maniac bipolar,and I know this from my own experience I am not making this up because this is something you don't play with and can be dangerous if you do not know the warning signs as well because Bipolar people can turn on a dime without warning ok.
I'm doing fine and I live with it quite well now and I know the signs and can tell the warning signs coming on myself and I let friends and family know to leave me alone if I am getting truly irritated or aggravated by something or someone or a situation or the littlest thing can bring it on in a person such as us you would be surprised.
So please start off my going on line and getting literature that you can print out okay (WEB-MD) for example there is plenty of information. for you to read so that is no excuse ok,and if your man has not sought professional help for it in your own way because you know him better than I try to get him to seek help, ease into that conversation very easily ok don't go into that head strong that is not the best way t do that.
You can also contact the National Mental Health Institute (NMHI) in Washington,D.C.or state capitol or town or county and ask for information on it also.
I hope things go well I hope to hear how your doing with this and may God,keep you both and strong and supportive of each other that is very important.GOOD LUCK!!
I was married to someone Bi-Polar. Notice i said "was"?
There is treatment available, both medical and theraputical.
But if he is not willing to tackle this head on, get out now. Thier resistance or denial or the problem can only make things worse. THEY have to be willing to work at it every bit as much as you. Try to tackle this alone and your gonna get lost. Trust me.
i'm bipolar and i know at times it drives my husband of 32 years up the wall where he feels more like a nurse than my husband. i hope your boyfriend is seeing a psychiatrist on a regular basis. that's very inportant. that way the doctor can see if ithere's a problem with you bf's meds and head off any relapses and deal with the meds before there's trouble. your bf needs to take his meds every day at the same time. just be supportive with him too. he didn't ask for othis illness and like most people with a mental illness it probably is scaring him. for more information go online to bi-polar there is some really good information there that can help you as well as your bf. i hope it helps you like it did me and my husband.
Excellent question.
I am the husband of a bi-polar woman, so I have some experience in this. The most important thing is to make sure your husband is seeking the help he needs and keeping the lines of communication with his doctors open. If he does not work with his doctor, then he is going to have serious problems that will effect your relationship. It also helps a lot to educate yourself as much as you can. Do a search of bi-polar disease on Google and you will find a number of really great websites to check out!
As far as living with him, it is certainly possible to live a perfectly normal life. Different people relate to bi-polar in different ways, so it is difficult for me to say what you should do with your boyfriend. I am blessed to have a wife that has done the reading herself and understands her condition. We work together. I try to notice when she is getting manic of depressed, and then I inquire to find out if she has a real problem, or if it is just bi-polar. If it is bi-polar, I never take anything she does or says personally. You have to separate yourself from the bi-polar... but at the same time, don't let your boyfriend take advantage of you, manipulate you, or abuse you. Bi-polar people might get upset or say something stupid once in awhile, but it is not an excuse for overall bad behavior. In any case, when my wife seems to be getting really upset for no reason, I suggest to her that she call her doctor about it, and she usually does. More times than not, she just needs a slight medicine adjustment.
Medication is funny. Treating bi-polar is NOT an exact science. One thing will work for someone, and not work for someone else. Sometimes something will work brilliantly, and then it suddenly won't work anymore. That is why it is so important to watch for signs of behavior change. If your boyfriend seems to be suddenly having problems, then getting in to see the doc can be a big help, because simply changing or adjusting the doses of medicine can often fix it.
Exercise is a big help, too. If you don't already, get yourself and your boyfriend out to do stuff often. Work out or play tennis or go jogging... whatever you like. Getting the heart rate up on a regular basis can make a really big difference.
I hope that helps. Don't worry about it too much. My life with my wife is pretty much normal. We have been married, and happily so, for seven years. If your boyfriend works with you and the doctors, he will be perfectly normal almost all the time. Once in awhile he will have a period of depression. Once in awhile he will get a little manic. Get him in to see the doctor, and he'll get over it soon enough. It takes a little patience, but love is hard work, even if your guy isn't bi-polar. If the guy is a great guy the rest of the time, it is worth it, but he has to be willing to work at it, too! Good luck!
he needs meds daily.
my 6 yr old son was diagnosed last year with early onset bipolar its very hard but i love him he is my world and i deal with it so if you love this man stick with him bp is an illness he cannot control it and its not his fault but also talk to his doc about Abilify it really really helped my son (its a mood stabilizer)
Check out these sites http://www.dbsalliance.org and http://www.nami.org
here is a suicide hotline1-800-273-TALK
Also tell him to tell the doctor he is having trouble with the lithium and not taking it. There are many other medications that are easier to take.
Best wishes
He NEEDS to take that lithium. He'll go Manic if he doesn't. And If you think depression is hard to deal with, try mania. Excessive need to shop. Some occasionally think that they are God! I'm Bipolar and have experienced this same effect.
I have been in a relationship were my boyfriend is bipolar for over 3 years some times its easy to deal with and times like this it isn't im lookin for any adice to help him ex: med advice, every day living, understand mood swings ect
Answer:
Well I am Bipolar,and I was diagnosed back in 2000,and and when I look back I may have had it all the way back to my childhood but back than health professionals did not have a name for it as of yet.
But like your boyfriend I have mood swings that would scare the hell out of people from severe to docile and you never knew heck I never knew which person would come out of me or what would trigger me to go off and like I said when I look back on this I was this way as a child and I am talking back in the 1960's ok!
Have you gotten any literature on line or from a health professional understanding the different moods of Bipolar disorder that would help you a whole lot in understanding your boyfriend for one thing.
Has he sought professional help for this there are good medications that will help him control his moods and live a more serene daily life and help you as well because you need to take time yourself and learn about it as well because he could have from mild to severe to maniac bipolar,and I know this from my own experience I am not making this up because this is something you don't play with and can be dangerous if you do not know the warning signs as well because Bipolar people can turn on a dime without warning ok.
I'm doing fine and I live with it quite well now and I know the signs and can tell the warning signs coming on myself and I let friends and family know to leave me alone if I am getting truly irritated or aggravated by something or someone or a situation or the littlest thing can bring it on in a person such as us you would be surprised.
So please start off my going on line and getting literature that you can print out okay (WEB-MD) for example there is plenty of information. for you to read so that is no excuse ok,and if your man has not sought professional help for it in your own way because you know him better than I try to get him to seek help, ease into that conversation very easily ok don't go into that head strong that is not the best way t do that.
You can also contact the National Mental Health Institute (NMHI) in Washington,D.C.or state capitol or town or county and ask for information on it also.
I hope things go well I hope to hear how your doing with this and may God,keep you both and strong and supportive of each other that is very important.GOOD LUCK!!
I was married to someone Bi-Polar. Notice i said "was"?
There is treatment available, both medical and theraputical.
But if he is not willing to tackle this head on, get out now. Thier resistance or denial or the problem can only make things worse. THEY have to be willing to work at it every bit as much as you. Try to tackle this alone and your gonna get lost. Trust me.
i'm bipolar and i know at times it drives my husband of 32 years up the wall where he feels more like a nurse than my husband. i hope your boyfriend is seeing a psychiatrist on a regular basis. that's very inportant. that way the doctor can see if ithere's a problem with you bf's meds and head off any relapses and deal with the meds before there's trouble. your bf needs to take his meds every day at the same time. just be supportive with him too. he didn't ask for othis illness and like most people with a mental illness it probably is scaring him. for more information go online to bi-polar there is some really good information there that can help you as well as your bf. i hope it helps you like it did me and my husband.
Excellent question.
I am the husband of a bi-polar woman, so I have some experience in this. The most important thing is to make sure your husband is seeking the help he needs and keeping the lines of communication with his doctors open. If he does not work with his doctor, then he is going to have serious problems that will effect your relationship. It also helps a lot to educate yourself as much as you can. Do a search of bi-polar disease on Google and you will find a number of really great websites to check out!
As far as living with him, it is certainly possible to live a perfectly normal life. Different people relate to bi-polar in different ways, so it is difficult for me to say what you should do with your boyfriend. I am blessed to have a wife that has done the reading herself and understands her condition. We work together. I try to notice when she is getting manic of depressed, and then I inquire to find out if she has a real problem, or if it is just bi-polar. If it is bi-polar, I never take anything she does or says personally. You have to separate yourself from the bi-polar... but at the same time, don't let your boyfriend take advantage of you, manipulate you, or abuse you. Bi-polar people might get upset or say something stupid once in awhile, but it is not an excuse for overall bad behavior. In any case, when my wife seems to be getting really upset for no reason, I suggest to her that she call her doctor about it, and she usually does. More times than not, she just needs a slight medicine adjustment.
Medication is funny. Treating bi-polar is NOT an exact science. One thing will work for someone, and not work for someone else. Sometimes something will work brilliantly, and then it suddenly won't work anymore. That is why it is so important to watch for signs of behavior change. If your boyfriend seems to be suddenly having problems, then getting in to see the doc can be a big help, because simply changing or adjusting the doses of medicine can often fix it.
Exercise is a big help, too. If you don't already, get yourself and your boyfriend out to do stuff often. Work out or play tennis or go jogging... whatever you like. Getting the heart rate up on a regular basis can make a really big difference.
I hope that helps. Don't worry about it too much. My life with my wife is pretty much normal. We have been married, and happily so, for seven years. If your boyfriend works with you and the doctors, he will be perfectly normal almost all the time. Once in awhile he will have a period of depression. Once in awhile he will get a little manic. Get him in to see the doctor, and he'll get over it soon enough. It takes a little patience, but love is hard work, even if your guy isn't bi-polar. If the guy is a great guy the rest of the time, it is worth it, but he has to be willing to work at it, too! Good luck!
he needs meds daily.
my 6 yr old son was diagnosed last year with early onset bipolar its very hard but i love him he is my world and i deal with it so if you love this man stick with him bp is an illness he cannot control it and its not his fault but also talk to his doc about Abilify it really really helped my son (its a mood stabilizer)
Check out these sites http://www.dbsalliance.org and http://www.nami.org
here is a suicide hotline1-800-273-TALK
Also tell him to tell the doctor he is having trouble with the lithium and not taking it. There are many other medications that are easier to take.
Best wishes
He NEEDS to take that lithium. He'll go Manic if he doesn't. And If you think depression is hard to deal with, try mania. Excessive need to shop. Some occasionally think that they are God! I'm Bipolar and have experienced this same effect.
Bipolar disorder? Manic-depressive disorder?
Does any one suffer from this disease whether directly or indirectly? That is whether you have it or a friend or loved one has it?
How do you cope..
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My fiance has Bi-polar. You just have to relize sometimes that she/he doesn't mean what they says. She's told me time and time again "It's not you- it's me". Those are really good words to keep in mind. I'm teaching myself not to take things so personally. You have to think to yourself " are they really angry at me- is it justifiable??" and base your actions on that. I love her with all my heart and she is one of the most caring people I have ever met. But she does have an illness that she works very hard to control. Just be supportive and understanding that it isn't your fault!! :) When they have outbreaks of emotion- they need you the most. And for the love of God- when they tell you to stop pressing issues- stop!! hahahaha All bi-polars have triggers- learn them and avoid them! ;) Best wishes...
i have it and have several in my family that do as well. educate yourself so you can properly and supportively react and help your loved one. if you have it, be open with your loved ones about it and educate yourself and then them. finally, see someone about it, do not take second hand advice as they are not experts and every case is different.
use music...music can cure...choose classical or soft sentimental music, avoid sad lyrics.this can help too..
Never say any negative words to the patients...this is very important.
I do not know about the illness name...but the above mentioned is good for depression patients...if you talk about mental brain problems...this is more serious and very complicated... still need to see brain doctors!
My daughter has bi-polar, BPD, Panic Disorder, and more. You take it one day at a time. Enjoy the good days and when you have a rough day it will end. Stay strong, take care of yourself and relax. Best of luck.
I have a very good friend with this disorder. You need to have a session with the therapist yourself occasionally and you should be reporting what the loved one is like currently.
It is also important for people they live with to help them journal thier moods so that the doctor knows if the meds are working well or should be adjusted.
If they are properley medicated the other real important link is that they are in therapy that helps them especially with the depressed phase.
It must be very very dificil to have this type of disorder, the truth not desire to anybody or to my worse enemy. Aunque si te digo que hoy en dia las personas sufren de tantos disturbios los puedes notar por las reacciones agresivas que tienen en un trafico, o simplemente una respuesta a una pregunta simple. La verdad que en este mundo el stress, la presion, el desespero, te hace tener desorden sin que te des cuenta. kisses
How do you cope..
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My fiance has Bi-polar. You just have to relize sometimes that she/he doesn't mean what they says. She's told me time and time again "It's not you- it's me". Those are really good words to keep in mind. I'm teaching myself not to take things so personally. You have to think to yourself " are they really angry at me- is it justifiable??" and base your actions on that. I love her with all my heart and she is one of the most caring people I have ever met. But she does have an illness that she works very hard to control. Just be supportive and understanding that it isn't your fault!! :) When they have outbreaks of emotion- they need you the most. And for the love of God- when they tell you to stop pressing issues- stop!! hahahaha All bi-polars have triggers- learn them and avoid them! ;) Best wishes...
i have it and have several in my family that do as well. educate yourself so you can properly and supportively react and help your loved one. if you have it, be open with your loved ones about it and educate yourself and then them. finally, see someone about it, do not take second hand advice as they are not experts and every case is different.
use music...music can cure...choose classical or soft sentimental music, avoid sad lyrics.this can help too..
Never say any negative words to the patients...this is very important.
I do not know about the illness name...but the above mentioned is good for depression patients...if you talk about mental brain problems...this is more serious and very complicated... still need to see brain doctors!
My daughter has bi-polar, BPD, Panic Disorder, and more. You take it one day at a time. Enjoy the good days and when you have a rough day it will end. Stay strong, take care of yourself and relax. Best of luck.
I have a very good friend with this disorder. You need to have a session with the therapist yourself occasionally and you should be reporting what the loved one is like currently.
It is also important for people they live with to help them journal thier moods so that the doctor knows if the meds are working well or should be adjusted.
If they are properley medicated the other real important link is that they are in therapy that helps them especially with the depressed phase.
It must be very very dificil to have this type of disorder, the truth not desire to anybody or to my worse enemy. Aunque si te digo que hoy en dia las personas sufren de tantos disturbios los puedes notar por las reacciones agresivas que tienen en un trafico, o simplemente una respuesta a una pregunta simple. La verdad que en este mundo el stress, la presion, el desespero, te hace tener desorden sin que te des cuenta. kisses
Bipolar disorder?
I have bipolar disorder and my dr started me out on 25mg of Seroquel. Will he eventually give me a higher dose? A friend of mine has BD also and takes 400mg of Seroquel.
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That is low dose of seroquel. That's a good thing.
You'll only get a higher dose if your manic episodes stay the same or increase. talk to your doctor.
Truthfully, it's not a good idea to get advise from people on ByeDr.com when it comes to your health.
It's pretty normal to start out on a low dose with most psychiatric medications. It needs time to build up in your system before you increase the dose.
Wow that is a great question. I think it really depends on how you react to Seroquel and what your body's chemistry is like. My wife has been on many different meds and believe it or not, she's progressed up to 1200mg Seroquel! She has insomnia issues and this seems to help, but she gets REALLY drowsy. Pharmacies have a difficult time filling her prescriptions because the theoretic max dose is 800mg. We have a neighbor that has been on Seroquel for many years and is still on only 50mg. Your doctor might try other solutions to your disorder to find the right "cocktail" for you. Bear in mind, if you get to high levels, they will make you very drowsy. She has to take hers at night, so when she does take them, she must go to bed immediately, otherwise she can do very foolish things.
Good luck.
My son is bipolar and started out on 25 mg. of Seroquel - over time, (6 months or so) it's been increased to 500 mg. at night and 2 50 mg. doses during the day. Your dr. may also suggest some other meds too.
doctors start you on a low dose to see how your body reacts to the medice and what type of side effects there may be. i was on seroquel and had unbearable headaches and was always tired. if they had started me on a higher dose i could have gotten really sick. if you body is adapting to the meds your doc will up it pretty much every month until you feel it is working.
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That is low dose of seroquel. That's a good thing.
You'll only get a higher dose if your manic episodes stay the same or increase. talk to your doctor.
Truthfully, it's not a good idea to get advise from people on ByeDr.com when it comes to your health.
It's pretty normal to start out on a low dose with most psychiatric medications. It needs time to build up in your system before you increase the dose.
Wow that is a great question. I think it really depends on how you react to Seroquel and what your body's chemistry is like. My wife has been on many different meds and believe it or not, she's progressed up to 1200mg Seroquel! She has insomnia issues and this seems to help, but she gets REALLY drowsy. Pharmacies have a difficult time filling her prescriptions because the theoretic max dose is 800mg. We have a neighbor that has been on Seroquel for many years and is still on only 50mg. Your doctor might try other solutions to your disorder to find the right "cocktail" for you. Bear in mind, if you get to high levels, they will make you very drowsy. She has to take hers at night, so when she does take them, she must go to bed immediately, otherwise she can do very foolish things.
Good luck.
My son is bipolar and started out on 25 mg. of Seroquel - over time, (6 months or so) it's been increased to 500 mg. at night and 2 50 mg. doses during the day. Your dr. may also suggest some other meds too.
doctors start you on a low dose to see how your body reacts to the medice and what type of side effects there may be. i was on seroquel and had unbearable headaches and was always tired. if they had started me on a higher dose i could have gotten really sick. if you body is adapting to the meds your doc will up it pretty much every month until you feel it is working.
Bipolar disorder..?
I have a friend that has bi polar disorder and he has not been on meds for a few years and he has mood swings ..he gets mad ALL the time ..is that part if it..he says he is made at everything the world per say and he cant explain why...i would love to find out some info about this disorder other than straigt facts from the web sites ...
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It definitely sounds like your friend needs to go see Psychiatrist and get on meds as soon as possible. Meds will level out his moods and he will not have the major swings in moods anymore once the right med(s) is found to help him. He is not going to have a "explanation" necessarily as to why because this is a chemical imbalance and just as someone who is not diagnosed gets angry he does but it is more extreme due to that chemical imbalance and therefor he needs help. There are also many other things that could be going on that only a Psychiatrist could figure out to help him. Stress, depression (because anger is sadness turned inward). I hope he gets the help he needs and it is good that he has someone like you that cares.
He needs to see a psychiatrist. I am unipolar which is similar to bipolar except not as severe. I'm on welbutrin. He needs help.
Having had this disease, for a number of years.what your friend describes, sounds pretty normal. When I wasn't on meds, my mood swings would effect every part of my life. Bipolar has a tendency to make you think about negative things, more than pleasant things. That usually carries over into everyday life...
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It definitely sounds like your friend needs to go see Psychiatrist and get on meds as soon as possible. Meds will level out his moods and he will not have the major swings in moods anymore once the right med(s) is found to help him. He is not going to have a "explanation" necessarily as to why because this is a chemical imbalance and just as someone who is not diagnosed gets angry he does but it is more extreme due to that chemical imbalance and therefor he needs help. There are also many other things that could be going on that only a Psychiatrist could figure out to help him. Stress, depression (because anger is sadness turned inward). I hope he gets the help he needs and it is good that he has someone like you that cares.
He needs to see a psychiatrist. I am unipolar which is similar to bipolar except not as severe. I'm on welbutrin. He needs help.
Having had this disease, for a number of years.what your friend describes, sounds pretty normal. When I wasn't on meds, my mood swings would effect every part of my life. Bipolar has a tendency to make you think about negative things, more than pleasant things. That usually carries over into everyday life...
Bipolar disorder sufferers: What's the most bizarre and manic thing you've done when manic?
The traditional one is to the found at the top of a tall building shouting that you can fly (oops that's one of my previous posts).
But what have you done that is wild and wonderful?
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I don't know about Wonderful;
I'm a sales executive for a medium sized global consulting firm. My job involves a decent level of travel and for one episode, I managed to travel to 7 cities in 4 days for business - including, Chicago, NYC, Philadelphia and Toronto. I managed to close three contracts - slept with a ton of different women and wonund up passed out in a hotel room on 17th St and Union Sq in NYC. Called my operations manager in London to ask him a question about a client; didn't get through after several calls; called his mobile and asked him why he wasn't at his desk, he said "Mate, it's Saturday, what are you doing." After I woke up, I realized I spent $7,000 on the company credit card - had about 3 days worth of wardrobe; took a cab to my mates house on the upper west side and slept for 2 days.
I explained this to my boss and he really didn't care, being that I've made the company so much money and it was business as usual after that.
It all started when I got into a fight with my father and he had called the police on me, I had my girlfriend pick me up and take me to her place and the rest is blank!
I had to rebuild all scenarios through various voicemails, emails, text messages, credit card receipts. It turns out, I slept with 2 doctors, a lawyer, a 19 year old spanish stripper in Toronto and 4 girls in San Francisco. I went on business meetings in 7 cities in 4 days and did well in selling my clients.
I would say it was wonderful, but I still don't remember a damn thing.
hahaha and did you fly?
I don't believe that I'm going to tell you this. During a particular manic few days, I sort of came to my senses wearing nothing but a rain mac, in a the middle of a muddy field in the middle of nowhere in the middle of the night. I still don't know to this day what the heck happened. Lately I talk very very fast and a lot of it is just bull. Up the medication!!
manic how? rage or too much energy
rage just scream yell kick just last out
the part where I become most energetic I run around singing lol but it usually comes crashing down to rage or sadness
but i've gotten over my bad years!
i started driving in saint louis, missouri and drove to chicago ,ill.
Hi:
The worst thing I think would be a spendind spree so bad that couldn't pay any bills and my car was almost repossed.
The worst in Manic no question was 2 suicide attempts serious ones, both within 5 weeks of each other.
Be safe and be well
I have tried to incinerate myself in a microwave, and I've tried to climb Cinderella's castle at Disney world.
Wild and wonderful? Well, I've ran around my house outside while climbing chain-linked fences...barefooted. Most of the time, I get really irritable. I'll punch things or throw things around.
But what have you done that is wild and wonderful?
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I don't know about Wonderful;
I'm a sales executive for a medium sized global consulting firm. My job involves a decent level of travel and for one episode, I managed to travel to 7 cities in 4 days for business - including, Chicago, NYC, Philadelphia and Toronto. I managed to close three contracts - slept with a ton of different women and wonund up passed out in a hotel room on 17th St and Union Sq in NYC. Called my operations manager in London to ask him a question about a client; didn't get through after several calls; called his mobile and asked him why he wasn't at his desk, he said "Mate, it's Saturday, what are you doing." After I woke up, I realized I spent $7,000 on the company credit card - had about 3 days worth of wardrobe; took a cab to my mates house on the upper west side and slept for 2 days.
I explained this to my boss and he really didn't care, being that I've made the company so much money and it was business as usual after that.
It all started when I got into a fight with my father and he had called the police on me, I had my girlfriend pick me up and take me to her place and the rest is blank!
I had to rebuild all scenarios through various voicemails, emails, text messages, credit card receipts. It turns out, I slept with 2 doctors, a lawyer, a 19 year old spanish stripper in Toronto and 4 girls in San Francisco. I went on business meetings in 7 cities in 4 days and did well in selling my clients.
I would say it was wonderful, but I still don't remember a damn thing.
hahaha and did you fly?
I don't believe that I'm going to tell you this. During a particular manic few days, I sort of came to my senses wearing nothing but a rain mac, in a the middle of a muddy field in the middle of nowhere in the middle of the night. I still don't know to this day what the heck happened. Lately I talk very very fast and a lot of it is just bull. Up the medication!!
manic how? rage or too much energy
rage just scream yell kick just last out
the part where I become most energetic I run around singing lol but it usually comes crashing down to rage or sadness
but i've gotten over my bad years!
i started driving in saint louis, missouri and drove to chicago ,ill.
Hi:
The worst thing I think would be a spendind spree so bad that couldn't pay any bills and my car was almost repossed.
The worst in Manic no question was 2 suicide attempts serious ones, both within 5 weeks of each other.
Be safe and be well
I have tried to incinerate myself in a microwave, and I've tried to climb Cinderella's castle at Disney world.
Wild and wonderful? Well, I've ran around my house outside while climbing chain-linked fences...barefooted. Most of the time, I get really irritable. I'll punch things or throw things around.
Bi-polar disorder is a mess?
Im starting to feel like Jeckle and Mr. Hyde. Im getting the familiar "manic" feeling.. so, I think Im going to be like this for a while. Bi-polar disorder is a gift and a ******* curse. : )
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Quite a manipulative one, aren't you? You aren't taking the Zoloft because you want the manic feeling...then you encompass that with alcohol and the "green baby".Good riddance on your mission to hell!
you don't have to go through the jeckyl/hyde syndrome. find a mood stabilizer that works for you. lithium is what works for me. also learn your symptoms and be your own best advocate. call your doctor at the first signs of mania and/or depression. mania can ruin your life if you let it. good luck! also try a dbsa support group.
I hear you on that...im going to see a new doc soon about getting on a new medication...best of luck to you in handling this!!
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Quite a manipulative one, aren't you? You aren't taking the Zoloft because you want the manic feeling...then you encompass that with alcohol and the "green baby".Good riddance on your mission to hell!
you don't have to go through the jeckyl/hyde syndrome. find a mood stabilizer that works for you. lithium is what works for me. also learn your symptoms and be your own best advocate. call your doctor at the first signs of mania and/or depression. mania can ruin your life if you let it. good luck! also try a dbsa support group.
I hear you on that...im going to see a new doc soon about getting on a new medication...best of luck to you in handling this!!
Bipolar BF... dissapears...?
I'm dating someone with bipolar and anxiety (he's on meds) and we get along soooo great. but he has moments whe he disappears into his "shell" and he won't respond by phone or e-mail. this could last days or weeks. I'm trying not to take it personally...but I do. What can I do??
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Hi:
I am also Bipolar and on meds. I also have depression and anxiety and more. Please let me reassure you that this is a part of Bipolar and it is NOT you. That is something you must grab hold to and believe that it is NOT you. I understand that must be hard, but it is the truth.
I end up doing this quite often, I will not answer my phone, some times not answer the door, do not want company and want nothing to do with the outside world. I call this "i'm hibernating in my cave" and no one is allowed into my cave, ever. It is my place and my place alone.
Leave voice messages on home phone, work phone, cell phone, tuck notes in the door on the car windshield and so on. That tells him that you love him, you care and you are here for him when he decides to come out of his cave. He may not read them, he won't call to thank you, but you have to havr faith that he knows you are there.
Not only is this a difficult time for him but a difficult time for you. As to what affects him, affects you also. He needs to make sure that he has a solid support team and I feel that is important for you as well. Join a support group, talk to your friends, it easier if you can talk to some one who has been there and done that so to speak.
My contact info is in my profile and I am more than happy to share with you my experiences and what knowledge I do have of Bipolar. Please feel free to contact me at any time as I am mostly here.
Be safe and be well
If in manic mode, he may be with other women. See bipolar disorder and anxiety at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 5, 2, and 6. Print/refer him direct.
Well first off you have to have a lot of understanding. When he does that he is on the down side. Try stopping by and making sure he is taking his meds. Sometimes they stop because of better performance in the bed room. Get involved in his treatment. Go with to Dr, and or counseling appt.
You need to let him know that he can come to you, even when he isn't happy. Let him know you won't leave him if he really expresses his emotions to you. I have issues like bipolar as well, and having a boyfriend who will go out of his way to listen to me rant and rave, and hold me while i cry, is the greatest gift I could ever ask for.
hi. the best thing to do is to just leave voicemails and e-mails that are encouraging, and to let him know that you care. it has nothing to do with you, so don't take it personaly. i am bipolar and have anxiety. i know what he is going through. i hate it when i go into my "shell". but there is nothing i/we can do about it. just be supportive to him. good luck.
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Hi:
I am also Bipolar and on meds. I also have depression and anxiety and more. Please let me reassure you that this is a part of Bipolar and it is NOT you. That is something you must grab hold to and believe that it is NOT you. I understand that must be hard, but it is the truth.
I end up doing this quite often, I will not answer my phone, some times not answer the door, do not want company and want nothing to do with the outside world. I call this "i'm hibernating in my cave" and no one is allowed into my cave, ever. It is my place and my place alone.
Leave voice messages on home phone, work phone, cell phone, tuck notes in the door on the car windshield and so on. That tells him that you love him, you care and you are here for him when he decides to come out of his cave. He may not read them, he won't call to thank you, but you have to havr faith that he knows you are there.
Not only is this a difficult time for him but a difficult time for you. As to what affects him, affects you also. He needs to make sure that he has a solid support team and I feel that is important for you as well. Join a support group, talk to your friends, it easier if you can talk to some one who has been there and done that so to speak.
My contact info is in my profile and I am more than happy to share with you my experiences and what knowledge I do have of Bipolar. Please feel free to contact me at any time as I am mostly here.
Be safe and be well
If in manic mode, he may be with other women. See bipolar disorder and anxiety at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 5, 2, and 6. Print/refer him direct.
Well first off you have to have a lot of understanding. When he does that he is on the down side. Try stopping by and making sure he is taking his meds. Sometimes they stop because of better performance in the bed room. Get involved in his treatment. Go with to Dr, and or counseling appt.
You need to let him know that he can come to you, even when he isn't happy. Let him know you won't leave him if he really expresses his emotions to you. I have issues like bipolar as well, and having a boyfriend who will go out of his way to listen to me rant and rave, and hold me while i cry, is the greatest gift I could ever ask for.
hi. the best thing to do is to just leave voicemails and e-mails that are encouraging, and to let him know that you care. it has nothing to do with you, so don't take it personaly. i am bipolar and have anxiety. i know what he is going through. i hate it when i go into my "shell". but there is nothing i/we can do about it. just be supportive to him. good luck.
Bipolar and borderline personality?
does these disorders usually go hand-in-hand??
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Yes, they often do.
People with Bipolar Disorder are not typically Borderline as well, but many times, people with Borderline Personality Disorder are (or were) diagnosed with some form of Bipolar Disorder (1, 2 or not otherwise specified).
Bipolar is a shift from manic (grandiose, irritable, sleepless, tireless, with unrealistic beliefs about the self) to depressive (hyposomnia, depressed mood, loss of interest, fatigue, irritability, loss of concentration) states.
Borderline is a pattern of insecurity and self-defeating behaviors and attitudes, as well as unstable relationships, often in which a person goes from idealizing others to devaluing them. This pattern is also described as splitting (people are either ALL good or ALL bad).
So you can see how both disorders involve swinging from one extreme to another.
The big difference between them is that Bipolar is a mental disorder, which can be expected to change or be treated with psychotropic medications and therapy, while Borderline is a personality disorder, meaning it is only diagnosed in adults, and is therefore much less liable to change, and for which only one intensive model of therapy has been found to have marginal success (Dialectical-Behavioral Therapy).
Yes, and schizofrenic disorders could easily be in this pack.
Very often but not absolutely every time. Bipolar seems to have major ups and downs, highs and lows, feeling great and depressed as HECK, borderline personality leans more toward scizo behavior though not necesarily paronoid scizo Hope it's not your problem and that is why you are asking. If it is your self or a family member delve very deeply into behaviors with therapist and books and the net. Either of the conditions require support and life long cooperation to deal with and some semblance of a good quality of life...plus these do help you qualify for medical disability
I have BPD but I am not bi-polar.
Borderline Personality Disorder rarely occurs alone and it is usually diagnosed with another mental illness. So, I was surprised to find that, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), only 15% of people with Bipolar Disorder also have Borderline Personality Disorder. It is much more likely to be seen with depression.
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Yes, they often do.
People with Bipolar Disorder are not typically Borderline as well, but many times, people with Borderline Personality Disorder are (or were) diagnosed with some form of Bipolar Disorder (1, 2 or not otherwise specified).
Bipolar is a shift from manic (grandiose, irritable, sleepless, tireless, with unrealistic beliefs about the self) to depressive (hyposomnia, depressed mood, loss of interest, fatigue, irritability, loss of concentration) states.
Borderline is a pattern of insecurity and self-defeating behaviors and attitudes, as well as unstable relationships, often in which a person goes from idealizing others to devaluing them. This pattern is also described as splitting (people are either ALL good or ALL bad).
So you can see how both disorders involve swinging from one extreme to another.
The big difference between them is that Bipolar is a mental disorder, which can be expected to change or be treated with psychotropic medications and therapy, while Borderline is a personality disorder, meaning it is only diagnosed in adults, and is therefore much less liable to change, and for which only one intensive model of therapy has been found to have marginal success (Dialectical-Behavioral Therapy).
Yes, and schizofrenic disorders could easily be in this pack.
Very often but not absolutely every time. Bipolar seems to have major ups and downs, highs and lows, feeling great and depressed as HECK, borderline personality leans more toward scizo behavior though not necesarily paronoid scizo Hope it's not your problem and that is why you are asking. If it is your self or a family member delve very deeply into behaviors with therapist and books and the net. Either of the conditions require support and life long cooperation to deal with and some semblance of a good quality of life...plus these do help you qualify for medical disability
I have BPD but I am not bi-polar.
Borderline Personality Disorder rarely occurs alone and it is usually diagnosed with another mental illness. So, I was surprised to find that, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), only 15% of people with Bipolar Disorder also have Borderline Personality Disorder. It is much more likely to be seen with depression.
Bipolar and ADHD?
Why do I so often see a double diagnosis of ADHD and bipolar in youth? I realize the symtoms of ADHD and mania are similar... so how do the docs know it is both, and not simply one or the other? And what can you tell me about medication interactions for these conditions?
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Hi:
I have Bipolar and ADHD. You are right, it is hard to differentiate between the two. That is why mostly you see many diagnoses prior to the diagnosis of Bipolar.
Bipolar has many co-existing diagnoses so it is not uncommon to see the diagnoses of Bipolar and them one or more other diagnoses.
I am on many meds for my Bipolar as it is difficult for med treatment with me but I am also on Adderal for my ADHD which works very well for me and has for years.
I have not seen any interaction of the Adderal and my Bipolar meds, they work together just fine.
If you ever want to talk, my contact info is in my profile and feel free to use it any time that you choose.
Be safe and be well
Well a person who is manic at times and depressed at times also may manifest a disability to stay on task until it's completed, or have to many things things going on in it's mind that they get jumbled.
I also have both. It is important for you doctor to work with you and your meds. I have not had any complications.
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Hi:
I have Bipolar and ADHD. You are right, it is hard to differentiate between the two. That is why mostly you see many diagnoses prior to the diagnosis of Bipolar.
Bipolar has many co-existing diagnoses so it is not uncommon to see the diagnoses of Bipolar and them one or more other diagnoses.
I am on many meds for my Bipolar as it is difficult for med treatment with me but I am also on Adderal for my ADHD which works very well for me and has for years.
I have not seen any interaction of the Adderal and my Bipolar meds, they work together just fine.
If you ever want to talk, my contact info is in my profile and feel free to use it any time that you choose.
Be safe and be well
Well a person who is manic at times and depressed at times also may manifest a disability to stay on task until it's completed, or have to many things things going on in it's mind that they get jumbled.
I also have both. It is important for you doctor to work with you and your meds. I have not had any complications.
Bipolar - How can I stop myself from saying too much of the wrong things??
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That's a tough one. My wife is bi-polar, and although it has been very, very infrequent, she has occasionally had an episode and said some pretty wild things. All you can do is see your doctor and stick to the regimen. Take your meds. Get some exercise. Look for symptoms that you are getting manic, and keep the lines of communication open with your doctors when it happens. Educate yourself as much as you can, and try to educate the people you deal with as much as possible, as well. What happens with us is that my wife and I keep an eye out for the symptoms of her becoming manic, and then call the doctor to see if she needs to adjust her meds or what. By controlling the symptoms, she simply doesn't get to the point where she loses control of herself. On the rare occasions where she does, everyone she knows understands she is bi-polar, and they recognize when she is being bi-polar and when she is not. Then, on the off chance she should say something weird, no one takes it personally. Honestly, it is no different than if you have a stomach flu and throw up. It sucks, but it happens. People know what the stomach bug is, though, so no one holds it against you. It is too bad that more people do not understand bi-polar.
keep your mouth shut. :)
great question, what are some of the situations you are inand what types of things are you saying, and to whom?
Bipolar - Distance with parent?
My mom has bp and we are currently not speaking due to a series of terrible behaviors that ocurred while she was not on meds. She feels as if she is the victim and we don't want her in our life. She thinks she is proving a point by not speaking to us. During this time I have had a baby. She called me once she found out I had the baby...1 month ago...and i invited her to the hospital to visit. Since then I have sent her 2 ecards (thank you for flowers %26 Happy Birthday). She has not responded and has made no effort to reconnect. She used to be a very big part of our life.
Just wondering if anyone has experience dealing with distance. How did everything work out? I am not sure whether to think this is temporary or perminant.
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Taking her in for an evaluation is very insulting to anyone. Do you know how often bipolar disorder is diagnosed? It's very over diagnosed these days. You basically said to her, "I don't like you, but your my mother, so I'm going to justify why with a doctor." Especially these days, medicine is a business. A doctor isn't going to let you walk out of his or her office without a diagnosis or prescription. Whatever your intentions or reasons were, that's the way it's seen and in some ways the way it is. Bipolar disorder is often more pleasant than the treatment.
You screwed up. This distance you created with her might be long term or not, but there's nothing you can do now. You hurt your mother by doing this, whether or not you believe she truly needed the help doesn't matter, and now there's nothing you can do to take it back.
I am going through that right now. I have gotten to the point where I have to worry about my family. She knows where I am and how to contact me. Remember, she is the person with the condition and if she chooses not to do what she needs to to control it that is her choice and her problem. Your children will need your undivided attention. Your mother is an adult - she can take care of herself and may one day realize what she missed out on by not doing what was right by her daughter and grandchildren. In the mean time go on with your life.
Why would you want her around a helpless infant when she is not on her meds? Pppl with bipolar are notorious for stopping their medication and not committing to the therapeutic process. It sounds like your mom could also have a borderline personality disorder. She has let you know that she doesn't really want to be a functioning member of the family let alone in society. Regardless of what anyone thinks...your mom is menatlly ill and she needs to take responsibility for her situation...which she is not willing to do. For the sake of your own sanity and the safety of your children you should put your foot down and make her take her meds...be in therapy...if she wants a relationship with you. Make it a requirement.
I took in a teenage girl (mother who was bipolar and exactly what I just described and what you have said about your mom) who's mom abandoned her. For 3 years I was lied to on a constant basis.she stole from everyone in this family and manipulated us. Finally I placed her in a mental facility (where she was diagnosed with bipolar and BPD) and she is now living in a residential treatment center. She refused to work the therapeutic process So she will probably age out of the system. I had to decide which was the best solution for everyone (I have 3 other kids and a grandson). The reality of it all...there is nothing you can do until she's ready to get well. Keep a safe distance away (she uses the I'm a victim thing as a way of manipulating you) and take care of your family. Whatever your mom needs to do you can't help her with. If you play into her being a victim...then you'll only be hurting her and yourself.
People with BPD can have serious mental problems, she must be in therapy as well as taking meds but be patient and try not to worry because she must be agreeable to therapy.
I honestly think that your mother is probably more embarassed by her behavior than anything. The only thing you can do at this point is reassure her that you are willing to accept the fact that this behavior was beyond her control. Mental illness is stigmatized and it is a shame that society still can not understand that it is a problem with organic brain chemistry. If your mother had diabetes or some other condition people would not judge her harshly. She probably needs you more than ever right now but is ashamed and grieving inside about her behaviors. Try to reinforce that you DO want her in your life and hopefully she will sort out her feelings and come to that realization. best wishes
Wow.my mom is BP as well...she is very selfish and thinks "poor me" all the time.I havent spoken to her in over 5 years.My choice...she wont take meds and is consistantly a pain in the *** so I dont deal with her at all.I have kids to care for and I dontr need her making a scene in front of them or being mean when she feels bad.Its not worth it to me.Now.my youngest child has been diagnosed with Bp...I have her on meds and helping her deal with it all.Its been hard on everyone...but being a mom to your own children is more important than dealing with your mother right now.
I am familiar with this disorder. It takes its toll on everyone around them. Family and friends don't know what to do with someone who is mentally ill . We are not as informed about it as we should be. What you need to do is read literature. That will help.People that are Bi-Polar have mood swings and can go from one state of mind to another. They have highs and lows. Try your hardest not have more drama there than she needs. Reason being Bi-Polars are easily stimulated like a child that is sleepy from playing to much. Don't give in to her pity parties, and you can expect that to happen as well as her being so low sometimes she feels like she is in hell and then next she could preach to the church on Sunday morning and feel like she is with Jesus himself. Thats how much of a natural high that they can get. I am being very serious.
. For her to understand herself and you as well, she will have to understand her illness. And so will you. This way you will be informed and not be upset all the time.Or whenever she graces you with her presence. I know its hard but don't let it get to you like it is. She is sick and you have a family that you have to take care of more. You can't spread yourself out so thin that all your emotions are scattered. Take care of you first and whenever she graces you with her presence be as positive as you can. Also one more thing. She will never get stablized until she is on the right meds for this and she has to take them and not stop. When she doesn't take them like she should; it makes everything that much worse. Sometimes you have to let it go in one ear and out the other so it won't hurt your feelings as much. My Moms Bi-Polar too. It has been one heck of a ride with her.
About the question if its temp. or perm. Its according to her and how she chooses to take things and deal with it. Because you can go into remission from BD for several years, but they maintained a certain lifestyle that suited them and they were able to function and showed no signs.
I know shes your Mom but don't set your expectations high when it comes to her. You will be disappointed and hurt and feel let down. At least she did make some kinds of efforts for your child and for your b-day. Some of us that are in the same situation don't even get that. Just love her while shes here, Honey. I know its bad. Believe me I know from personal experience.
My mother is bipolar and so am I, I think when a bipolar individual "shuts down", or distances themselves from loved ones, it`s time to pay a visit to them..I would go and see your mom personally, by yourself and see what kind of a mood she`s in..
Just wondering if anyone has experience dealing with distance. How did everything work out? I am not sure whether to think this is temporary or perminant.
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Taking her in for an evaluation is very insulting to anyone. Do you know how often bipolar disorder is diagnosed? It's very over diagnosed these days. You basically said to her, "I don't like you, but your my mother, so I'm going to justify why with a doctor." Especially these days, medicine is a business. A doctor isn't going to let you walk out of his or her office without a diagnosis or prescription. Whatever your intentions or reasons were, that's the way it's seen and in some ways the way it is. Bipolar disorder is often more pleasant than the treatment.
You screwed up. This distance you created with her might be long term or not, but there's nothing you can do now. You hurt your mother by doing this, whether or not you believe she truly needed the help doesn't matter, and now there's nothing you can do to take it back.
I am going through that right now. I have gotten to the point where I have to worry about my family. She knows where I am and how to contact me. Remember, she is the person with the condition and if she chooses not to do what she needs to to control it that is her choice and her problem. Your children will need your undivided attention. Your mother is an adult - she can take care of herself and may one day realize what she missed out on by not doing what was right by her daughter and grandchildren. In the mean time go on with your life.
Why would you want her around a helpless infant when she is not on her meds? Pppl with bipolar are notorious for stopping their medication and not committing to the therapeutic process. It sounds like your mom could also have a borderline personality disorder. She has let you know that she doesn't really want to be a functioning member of the family let alone in society. Regardless of what anyone thinks...your mom is menatlly ill and she needs to take responsibility for her situation...which she is not willing to do. For the sake of your own sanity and the safety of your children you should put your foot down and make her take her meds...be in therapy...if she wants a relationship with you. Make it a requirement.
I took in a teenage girl (mother who was bipolar and exactly what I just described and what you have said about your mom) who's mom abandoned her. For 3 years I was lied to on a constant basis.she stole from everyone in this family and manipulated us. Finally I placed her in a mental facility (where she was diagnosed with bipolar and BPD) and she is now living in a residential treatment center. She refused to work the therapeutic process So she will probably age out of the system. I had to decide which was the best solution for everyone (I have 3 other kids and a grandson). The reality of it all...there is nothing you can do until she's ready to get well. Keep a safe distance away (she uses the I'm a victim thing as a way of manipulating you) and take care of your family. Whatever your mom needs to do you can't help her with. If you play into her being a victim...then you'll only be hurting her and yourself.
People with BPD can have serious mental problems, she must be in therapy as well as taking meds but be patient and try not to worry because she must be agreeable to therapy.
I honestly think that your mother is probably more embarassed by her behavior than anything. The only thing you can do at this point is reassure her that you are willing to accept the fact that this behavior was beyond her control. Mental illness is stigmatized and it is a shame that society still can not understand that it is a problem with organic brain chemistry. If your mother had diabetes or some other condition people would not judge her harshly. She probably needs you more than ever right now but is ashamed and grieving inside about her behaviors. Try to reinforce that you DO want her in your life and hopefully she will sort out her feelings and come to that realization. best wishes
Wow.my mom is BP as well...she is very selfish and thinks "poor me" all the time.I havent spoken to her in over 5 years.My choice...she wont take meds and is consistantly a pain in the *** so I dont deal with her at all.I have kids to care for and I dontr need her making a scene in front of them or being mean when she feels bad.Its not worth it to me.Now.my youngest child has been diagnosed with Bp...I have her on meds and helping her deal with it all.Its been hard on everyone...but being a mom to your own children is more important than dealing with your mother right now.
I am familiar with this disorder. It takes its toll on everyone around them. Family and friends don't know what to do with someone who is mentally ill . We are not as informed about it as we should be. What you need to do is read literature. That will help.People that are Bi-Polar have mood swings and can go from one state of mind to another. They have highs and lows. Try your hardest not have more drama there than she needs. Reason being Bi-Polars are easily stimulated like a child that is sleepy from playing to much. Don't give in to her pity parties, and you can expect that to happen as well as her being so low sometimes she feels like she is in hell and then next she could preach to the church on Sunday morning and feel like she is with Jesus himself. Thats how much of a natural high that they can get. I am being very serious.
. For her to understand herself and you as well, she will have to understand her illness. And so will you. This way you will be informed and not be upset all the time.Or whenever she graces you with her presence. I know its hard but don't let it get to you like it is. She is sick and you have a family that you have to take care of more. You can't spread yourself out so thin that all your emotions are scattered. Take care of you first and whenever she graces you with her presence be as positive as you can. Also one more thing. She will never get stablized until she is on the right meds for this and she has to take them and not stop. When she doesn't take them like she should; it makes everything that much worse. Sometimes you have to let it go in one ear and out the other so it won't hurt your feelings as much. My Moms Bi-Polar too. It has been one heck of a ride with her.
About the question if its temp. or perm. Its according to her and how she chooses to take things and deal with it. Because you can go into remission from BD for several years, but they maintained a certain lifestyle that suited them and they were able to function and showed no signs.
I know shes your Mom but don't set your expectations high when it comes to her. You will be disappointed and hurt and feel let down. At least she did make some kinds of efforts for your child and for your b-day. Some of us that are in the same situation don't even get that. Just love her while shes here, Honey. I know its bad. Believe me I know from personal experience.
My mother is bipolar and so am I, I think when a bipolar individual "shuts down", or distances themselves from loved ones, it`s time to pay a visit to them..I would go and see your mom personally, by yourself and see what kind of a mood she`s in..
Binge eating??
When ever my exams r near and i am supposed to study, i start binge eating like one cereal box a day hehe. I know its crazy. Anyway i always say only today i'll eat like this but the next day i continue to do the same thing.
Why do u think this is so and how can i stop this?
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your just nervous about passing and if its only cereal it wont hurt you. plus exams do end as will the binge eating when your done
hrrmmm... i think... just don't do it and you will stop.
i dont know but i eat a lot everyday after i eat somthing i cant stop lol but i dont even gte fatter when i eat alot
Why do u think this is so and how can i stop this?
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your just nervous about passing and if its only cereal it wont hurt you. plus exams do end as will the binge eating when your done
hrrmmm... i think... just don't do it and you will stop.
i dont know but i eat a lot everyday after i eat somthing i cant stop lol but i dont even gte fatter when i eat alot
Big time problem with my sister?
hear's the thing. i dont know happen but she was in canada
i dont know what the docs diagnose her 2 years ago but she was ok she still takes wellbutruin xl 150mg. but when she went to canada she forgot to take it for 7 days. she starts shaking, she doesnt want to eat, she walks back %26 forth what kind of condition is that need help fast
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sounds like depression
well, i say you calm down. i cant understand what you wrote.
That sounds like it could be withdrawals; you are supposed to wean off of meds like that, not quit cold turkey.
Erm...Normal people ask doctors.
*turns you towards a door* Go ask a doctor!
First of all, she's having with drawls. Wellbutrin is typically prescribed for depression and anxiety disorders. She can call her pharmacy or Dr. back home and get them to transfer her prescription to a pharmacy in Canada. She will feel much better almost as soon as she gets her next dose. It shouldn't take too too long.
You need a doctor...
But those are signs of drug withdraw.
Her body is so used to that medication that without it her body freaks. Like Alcoholism withdraw
take her too the hospital plus u dont know how to type
Wellbutrin is usually given to people with severe depression.
It not given to people who do not have problems, and your sister has a problem that you cannot deal with alone.
You must get professional medical help.
Take her to a doctor without further delay.
What you are decribing sounds like what my sister-in-law went through when she was being taken off one med for depression to a new med. Some type of withdrawal. Contact the Dr.and let them know what it going on.
I believe she is suffering from some mental problem.She may have a few things she has not discussed with you that bother her about her life.Her med is for her stress,depression,etc.She may just be just going through a withdrawl symptom due to the dependency this drug develops.150 mg is the max on this drug.She should try to wean herself off this drug slowly-within a one month period.weekly reduce her med by 25%.She needs to be heard %26 not always fixed,sometimes to be listened to is enough.Time will tell.I read the word of God.NIV.Accept Jesus %26 you will be amazed how our creator can heal %26 repair our lifes.
My husband was on that for a year. He was removed because he would have seizures on it with no prior history. It sounds very much like withdrawls. It takes about 7 days because she is taking the XL or extended release version of the drug. See the P'doc right away!
Kathryn
Hi,
From what I've read about Wellbutrin a person can have withdrawals if they stop taking it abruptly. No medication should ever be stopped without discussing it with a doctor first but sometimes these things happen and people forget, run out of meds, etc.
Your sister should go back on the Wellbutrin right away and she should also let her doctor know what's going on.
The most common signs of withdrawal from Wellbutrin is flu-like symptoms such as headache, nausea and vomiting. What your sister is experiencing may not have to do with the withdrawal or it may be that along with something else such as a manic episode.She should go to the ER if it's really bad or and call her doctor immediately. I hope things get better for her soon.
If she stopped taking drugs after taking it for 2 year, those symptoms are withdrawals. She needs to start taking it immediately, and she decides to stop, she needs to wean off slowly over many months.
See depression at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2: "the road back", antidepressant, and www.drugs.com websites. Such medications should ALWAYS be tapered off slowly, under medical advice. She should have a medicine organiser, with alarm, a $10 PDA, or reminders in her cellular mobile phone. Consult a doctor, ASAP!
i dont know what the docs diagnose her 2 years ago but she was ok she still takes wellbutruin xl 150mg. but when she went to canada she forgot to take it for 7 days. she starts shaking, she doesnt want to eat, she walks back %26 forth what kind of condition is that need help fast
Answer:
sounds like depression
well, i say you calm down. i cant understand what you wrote.
That sounds like it could be withdrawals; you are supposed to wean off of meds like that, not quit cold turkey.
Erm...Normal people ask doctors.
*turns you towards a door* Go ask a doctor!
First of all, she's having with drawls. Wellbutrin is typically prescribed for depression and anxiety disorders. She can call her pharmacy or Dr. back home and get them to transfer her prescription to a pharmacy in Canada. She will feel much better almost as soon as she gets her next dose. It shouldn't take too too long.
You need a doctor...
But those are signs of drug withdraw.
Her body is so used to that medication that without it her body freaks. Like Alcoholism withdraw
take her too the hospital plus u dont know how to type
Wellbutrin is usually given to people with severe depression.
It not given to people who do not have problems, and your sister has a problem that you cannot deal with alone.
You must get professional medical help.
Take her to a doctor without further delay.
What you are decribing sounds like what my sister-in-law went through when she was being taken off one med for depression to a new med. Some type of withdrawal. Contact the Dr.and let them know what it going on.
I believe she is suffering from some mental problem.She may have a few things she has not discussed with you that bother her about her life.Her med is for her stress,depression,etc.She may just be just going through a withdrawl symptom due to the dependency this drug develops.150 mg is the max on this drug.She should try to wean herself off this drug slowly-within a one month period.weekly reduce her med by 25%.She needs to be heard %26 not always fixed,sometimes to be listened to is enough.Time will tell.I read the word of God.NIV.Accept Jesus %26 you will be amazed how our creator can heal %26 repair our lifes.
My husband was on that for a year. He was removed because he would have seizures on it with no prior history. It sounds very much like withdrawls. It takes about 7 days because she is taking the XL or extended release version of the drug. See the P'doc right away!
Kathryn
Hi,
From what I've read about Wellbutrin a person can have withdrawals if they stop taking it abruptly. No medication should ever be stopped without discussing it with a doctor first but sometimes these things happen and people forget, run out of meds, etc.
Your sister should go back on the Wellbutrin right away and she should also let her doctor know what's going on.
The most common signs of withdrawal from Wellbutrin is flu-like symptoms such as headache, nausea and vomiting. What your sister is experiencing may not have to do with the withdrawal or it may be that along with something else such as a manic episode.She should go to the ER if it's really bad or and call her doctor immediately. I hope things get better for her soon.
If she stopped taking drugs after taking it for 2 year, those symptoms are withdrawals. She needs to start taking it immediately, and she decides to stop, she needs to wean off slowly over many months.
See depression at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2: "the road back", antidepressant, and www.drugs.com websites. Such medications should ALWAYS be tapered off slowly, under medical advice. She should have a medicine organiser, with alarm, a $10 PDA, or reminders in her cellular mobile phone. Consult a doctor, ASAP!
Big Fears are Scary?
A big fear makes you hide in the closet with a coat on your head and it isn't good. Crying is a big fear for me. What is a big fear for you?
Answer:
Bad storms scare me. High winds really send me to the closet.
I Fear Change
My closet is too full of clothes, storage boxes, and future gifts for people -- there's NO way I could ever hide in there! *chuckle* Not that I'd want to anyway; what makes ME feel secure and "hidden" is lying on my stomach in bed, with the coves tight over my head. :)
Anyhoo, I don't know if these fears of mine would be considered "big fears", as I'm not sure what your criteria is. But here goes: myself or one of my family members getting cancer, any of my family members being afflicted with dementia/senility, alien abductions, a fire destroying my home and all my sentimental valuables, nuclear war, terrorism, never getting married and growing old alone. (These are not in any particular order, BTW).
Missing a meal. I'd faint
Failure.
Failure in business.
Failure in life.
Failure as a parent.
Failure as a friend.
Failure in anything.
i hat ebeing left in the dark not as in litterally i mean i hate not knowing things
losing the things/people/animals that i love
and hanging upside down *shudder*
im really scared of going out in public where i may see people from my school.
BUNNIES!
Republicans
Answer:
Bad storms scare me. High winds really send me to the closet.
I Fear Change
My closet is too full of clothes, storage boxes, and future gifts for people -- there's NO way I could ever hide in there! *chuckle* Not that I'd want to anyway; what makes ME feel secure and "hidden" is lying on my stomach in bed, with the coves tight over my head. :)
Anyhoo, I don't know if these fears of mine would be considered "big fears", as I'm not sure what your criteria is. But here goes: myself or one of my family members getting cancer, any of my family members being afflicted with dementia/senility, alien abductions, a fire destroying my home and all my sentimental valuables, nuclear war, terrorism, never getting married and growing old alone. (These are not in any particular order, BTW).
Missing a meal. I'd faint
Failure.
Failure in business.
Failure in life.
Failure as a parent.
Failure as a friend.
Failure in anything.
i hat ebeing left in the dark not as in litterally i mean i hate not knowing things
losing the things/people/animals that i love
and hanging upside down *shudder*
im really scared of going out in public where i may see people from my school.
BUNNIES!
Republicans
Best ways to relax?
Not long term stress, but these shots of adreniline that make my heart beet fast and shake and feel claustrphobic... I just need one really good way that can take a minute or two to do, like breathe maybe? Cuz sometimes I get really nervous and my heart beats fast.
Answer:
Progressive Relaxation
This technique is often most useful when you tape the instructions beforehand. You can tape these instructions, reading them slowly and leaving a short pause after each one.
Lie on your back, close your eyes.
Feel your feet. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and sink into the bed. Start with your toes and progress to your ankles.
Feel your knees. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel you upper legs and thighs. Feel their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your abdomen and chest. Sense your breathing. Consciously will them to relax. Deepen your breathing slightly and feel your abdomen and chest sink into the bed.
Feel your buttocks. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your hands. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your upper arms. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your shoulders. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your neck. Sense its weight. Consciously relax it and feel it sink into the bed.
Feel your head and skull. Sense its weight. Consciously relax it and feel it sink into the bed.
Feel your mouth and jaw. Consciously relax them. Pay particular attention to your jaw muscles and unclench them if you need to. Feel your mouth and jaw relax and sink into the bed.
Feel your eyes. Sense if there is tension in your eyes. Sense if you are forcibly closing your eyelids. Consciously relax your eyelids and feel the tension slide off the eyes.
Feel your face and cheeks. Consciously relax them and feel the tension slide off into the bed.
Mentally scan your body. If you find any place that is still tense, then consciously relax that place and let it sink into the bed.
Toe Tensing
This one may seem like a bit of a contradiction to the previous one, but by alternately tensing and relaxing your toes, you actually draw tension from the rest of the body. Try it!
Lie on your back, close your eyes.
Sense your toes.
Now pull all 10 toes back toward your face. Count to 10 slowly.
Now relax your toes.
Count to 10 slowly.
Now repeat the above cycle 10 times.
Deep Breathing
By concentrating on our breathing, deep breathing allows the rest of our body to relax itself. Deep breathing is a great way to relax the body and get everything into synchrony. Relaxation breathing is an important part of yoga and martial arts for this reason.
Lie on your back.
Slowly relax your body. You can use the progressive relaxation technique we described above.
Begin to inhale slowly through your nose if possible. Fill the lower part of your chest first, then the middle and top part of your chest and lungs. Be sure to do this slowly, over 8鈥?0 seconds.
Hold your breath for a second or two.
Then quietly and easily relax and let the air out.
Wait a few seconds and repeat this cycle.
If you find yourself getting dizzy, then you are overdoing it. Slow down.
You can also imagine yourself in a peaceful situation such as on a warm, gentle ocean. Imagine that you rise on the gentle swells of the water as you inhale and sink down into the waves as you exhale.
You can continue this breathing technique for as long as you like until you fall asleep.
Guided Imagery
In this technique, the goal is to visualize yourself in a peaceful setting.
Lie on your back with your eyes closed.
Imagine yourself in a favorite, peaceful place. The place may be on a sunny beach with the ocean breezes caressing you, swinging in a hammock in the mountains or in your own backyard. Any place that you find peaceful and relaxing is OK.
Imagine you are there. See and feel your surroundings, hear the peaceful sounds, smell the flowers or the barbecue, fell the warmth of the sun and any other sensations that you find. Relax and enjoy it.
You can return to this place any night you need to. As you use this place more and more you will find it easier to fall asleep as this imagery becomes a sleep conditioner.
Some patients find it useful to visualize something boring. This may be a particularly boring teacher or lecturer, co-worker or friend.
Quiet Ears
Lie on your back with your eyes closed.
Place your hands behind your head. Make sure they are relaxed.
Place your thumbs in your ears so that you close the ear canal.
You will hear a high-pitched rushing sound. This is normal.
Listen to this sound for 10鈥?5 minutes.
Then put your arms at your sides, actively relax them and go to sleep.
close ur eyes and take a deep breath in and out till you fell calm hope that helped
Answer:
Progressive Relaxation
This technique is often most useful when you tape the instructions beforehand. You can tape these instructions, reading them slowly and leaving a short pause after each one.
Lie on your back, close your eyes.
Feel your feet. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and sink into the bed. Start with your toes and progress to your ankles.
Feel your knees. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel you upper legs and thighs. Feel their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your abdomen and chest. Sense your breathing. Consciously will them to relax. Deepen your breathing slightly and feel your abdomen and chest sink into the bed.
Feel your buttocks. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your hands. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your upper arms. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your shoulders. Sense their weight. Consciously relax them and feel them sink into the bed.
Feel your neck. Sense its weight. Consciously relax it and feel it sink into the bed.
Feel your head and skull. Sense its weight. Consciously relax it and feel it sink into the bed.
Feel your mouth and jaw. Consciously relax them. Pay particular attention to your jaw muscles and unclench them if you need to. Feel your mouth and jaw relax and sink into the bed.
Feel your eyes. Sense if there is tension in your eyes. Sense if you are forcibly closing your eyelids. Consciously relax your eyelids and feel the tension slide off the eyes.
Feel your face and cheeks. Consciously relax them and feel the tension slide off into the bed.
Mentally scan your body. If you find any place that is still tense, then consciously relax that place and let it sink into the bed.
Toe Tensing
This one may seem like a bit of a contradiction to the previous one, but by alternately tensing and relaxing your toes, you actually draw tension from the rest of the body. Try it!
Lie on your back, close your eyes.
Sense your toes.
Now pull all 10 toes back toward your face. Count to 10 slowly.
Now relax your toes.
Count to 10 slowly.
Now repeat the above cycle 10 times.
Deep Breathing
By concentrating on our breathing, deep breathing allows the rest of our body to relax itself. Deep breathing is a great way to relax the body and get everything into synchrony. Relaxation breathing is an important part of yoga and martial arts for this reason.
Lie on your back.
Slowly relax your body. You can use the progressive relaxation technique we described above.
Begin to inhale slowly through your nose if possible. Fill the lower part of your chest first, then the middle and top part of your chest and lungs. Be sure to do this slowly, over 8鈥?0 seconds.
Hold your breath for a second or two.
Then quietly and easily relax and let the air out.
Wait a few seconds and repeat this cycle.
If you find yourself getting dizzy, then you are overdoing it. Slow down.
You can also imagine yourself in a peaceful situation such as on a warm, gentle ocean. Imagine that you rise on the gentle swells of the water as you inhale and sink down into the waves as you exhale.
You can continue this breathing technique for as long as you like until you fall asleep.
Guided Imagery
In this technique, the goal is to visualize yourself in a peaceful setting.
Lie on your back with your eyes closed.
Imagine yourself in a favorite, peaceful place. The place may be on a sunny beach with the ocean breezes caressing you, swinging in a hammock in the mountains or in your own backyard. Any place that you find peaceful and relaxing is OK.
Imagine you are there. See and feel your surroundings, hear the peaceful sounds, smell the flowers or the barbecue, fell the warmth of the sun and any other sensations that you find. Relax and enjoy it.
You can return to this place any night you need to. As you use this place more and more you will find it easier to fall asleep as this imagery becomes a sleep conditioner.
Some patients find it useful to visualize something boring. This may be a particularly boring teacher or lecturer, co-worker or friend.
Quiet Ears
Lie on your back with your eyes closed.
Place your hands behind your head. Make sure they are relaxed.
Place your thumbs in your ears so that you close the ear canal.
You will hear a high-pitched rushing sound. This is normal.
Listen to this sound for 10鈥?5 minutes.
Then put your arms at your sides, actively relax them and go to sleep.
close ur eyes and take a deep breath in and out till you fell calm hope that helped
Best way to quit smoking weed?
I'm a graphic designer who smokes every day. Half the day, Being sober is better, but after 6pm, I need to toke, or else I can't stay on task, and my mind keeps wandering. I work 2 full time-jobs by the way. this goes for all unpleasant things, housework, freelance work, etc. I can't stay motivated without weed! Any helpful advice? (please don't recommend AA or rehab...not an option.) Thank you
Answer:
Off the top of my head, I'd say try doing the most annoying and/or difficult tasks before 6pm. Save things like housework (c'mon, how much do you need to think to do housework? Just make a list and do it.) for last.
weed has nothing that makes you adicted, its all psicologycal, so maybe get a psicologist, its not like a cigarrete that has nicotin which slowly makes you adicted, marihuana has no ingredient like that... its all in the mind, try smoking less every day?
Why exaclty do you want to quit?
when you feel like smoking do something else like suck on candy mints or chewing gum, it is all in the mind the addiction and you just need to do something else that is better for you rather than something that could potentially kill you
i smoked every day all day for 3 years and i just up and quit one day, although, maybe you need adderall or something to help you stay focused, can you try cutting back and not smoking as much? its been so long since ive been in that situation i half forget what to say lol.
just stop or go to rehab
I quit cold turkey after 30+ years.
Answer:
Off the top of my head, I'd say try doing the most annoying and/or difficult tasks before 6pm. Save things like housework (c'mon, how much do you need to think to do housework? Just make a list and do it.) for last.
weed has nothing that makes you adicted, its all psicologycal, so maybe get a psicologist, its not like a cigarrete that has nicotin which slowly makes you adicted, marihuana has no ingredient like that... its all in the mind, try smoking less every day?
Why exaclty do you want to quit?
when you feel like smoking do something else like suck on candy mints or chewing gum, it is all in the mind the addiction and you just need to do something else that is better for you rather than something that could potentially kill you
i smoked every day all day for 3 years and i just up and quit one day, although, maybe you need adderall or something to help you stay focused, can you try cutting back and not smoking as much? its been so long since ive been in that situation i half forget what to say lol.
just stop or go to rehab
I quit cold turkey after 30+ years.
Best way to deal?
I was rapped at 14. I had my daughter 15 as result of that rape. I tried to forget about it the whole time i was pregnant and pretty much did. Then when I had her I pretended everything was normal and pretended nothing happened. Now my daughter is 3 1/2 and my lil sister who is also 3 asked me y veronica didn't have a daddy like her right in front of my daughter. I was at a loss for words, my daughter could tell something was wrong n came up n said i don't need a daddy your the best mommy in the world. SO it seemed solved right shes not asking me. But I'm so worried i haven't protected her from it. and lately i haven't been the same. I always sad and thinking n hate it when its quite cuz I'm left with just my thoughts. I feel like I'm not as good of a mom ne more. am i suffering depression from ignoring what happened for so long? What could I do to feel like myslef again?
Answer:
I think you've been sorta running from the fact that you were through a traumatic experience. Your daughter was right when she told you she doesn't need a dad when she's got a great mom. But it's your responsibility as her mom to take care of yourself %26 to deal with these very difficult issues %26 emotions you are facing within yourself before you can face the questions your daughter will no doubt one day ask. You have to "pull yourself together" so to speak and really just find away to face your experience. Rape leaves very deep scars and the only way to truly heal is to confront those feelings head on and work through them.
Seek counseling and work through your own feelings about this as it's definately something that needs to be dealt with %26 needs some sort of closure. For your sake %26 and your daughters.
Best wishes from the bottom of my heart %26 Good Luck to both of you.
omg your going thro alot and you couldent help that you had that child and that litle baby is a mirical
Go see a therapist. Listen to good, soothing music - - music always solves everything!
what a wonderful mother you are to take a challenging experience and turn it into life. you should talk about your options with a trusted professional, preferably someone who specializes in rape trauma and the impact it has had on your life. the birth of your child is the result of your strength to turn a horrible experience into the greatest experience of your life. remember that. and one day, your child will thank you for it. good luck! you seem like a sweet thoughtful mother.
Yes it is sad, but you don't know, every sadness has an end, and every happiness has an end too. For you it is the sadness which will have an end, and until that you can always visit the EFT site, and accept yourself as you are.
There are millions of non healthy people who suffer, on wheelchairs, or amputated, and they still feel happy.
Everything will be OK, you will find a good advice until your child grows up. Then you can always say that he left you and you don't know where he is, and that you don't want to remember his name.
There is nothing difficult in life, as much as you don't get desperate, and you think that there are people in much worst condition than you. Leave it to God.
Read the story: "And this too shall pass" in my source site.
Answer:
I think you've been sorta running from the fact that you were through a traumatic experience. Your daughter was right when she told you she doesn't need a dad when she's got a great mom. But it's your responsibility as her mom to take care of yourself %26 to deal with these very difficult issues %26 emotions you are facing within yourself before you can face the questions your daughter will no doubt one day ask. You have to "pull yourself together" so to speak and really just find away to face your experience. Rape leaves very deep scars and the only way to truly heal is to confront those feelings head on and work through them.
Seek counseling and work through your own feelings about this as it's definately something that needs to be dealt with %26 needs some sort of closure. For your sake %26 and your daughters.
Best wishes from the bottom of my heart %26 Good Luck to both of you.
omg your going thro alot and you couldent help that you had that child and that litle baby is a mirical
Go see a therapist. Listen to good, soothing music - - music always solves everything!
what a wonderful mother you are to take a challenging experience and turn it into life. you should talk about your options with a trusted professional, preferably someone who specializes in rape trauma and the impact it has had on your life. the birth of your child is the result of your strength to turn a horrible experience into the greatest experience of your life. remember that. and one day, your child will thank you for it. good luck! you seem like a sweet thoughtful mother.
Yes it is sad, but you don't know, every sadness has an end, and every happiness has an end too. For you it is the sadness which will have an end, and until that you can always visit the EFT site, and accept yourself as you are.
There are millions of non healthy people who suffer, on wheelchairs, or amputated, and they still feel happy.
Everything will be OK, you will find a good advice until your child grows up. Then you can always say that he left you and you don't know where he is, and that you don't want to remember his name.
There is nothing difficult in life, as much as you don't get desperate, and you think that there are people in much worst condition than you. Leave it to God.
Read the story: "And this too shall pass" in my source site.
Best way to cope with rejection when you're being avoided?
How do you cope with rejection when a guy won't even TELL you he doesn't want you in his life -- he just avoids you instead? No answers.. no reason... nothing. How do you get over that?? Oh... and he has severe bipolar -- so i really don't know what's happening. :-(
Answer:
I know that it would be hard to do. But the best thing you can do is start ignoring him. Avoid him at all costs and do not contact him. It would do more damage for him to wonder what you are out doing than to know you keep trying to get in touch with him.
Just forget about him. There will be someone that comes along.
Tell yourself you are better than sitting around waiting on someone who won't even show you the respect of communicating his feelings. My husband is bipolar and refuses to take meds. We're seperated because he tried to hurt me when I was 3 months pregnant. You are better than that and deserve more. Move on. Life's too short.
Persons who suffer from Bipolar disorder have difficulty relating to other people. They are often on strong medication to maintain and control the disorder. He may be rejecting you for the usual suspect reasons, i.e.: he doesn't like you, or the chemistry just isn't there, or he's rude. However, he might be avoiding you because he is afraid to start or try to maintain a relationship while he is suffering from this disorder.
Leave him alone. Since that is what he wants. Move on with your life with other people. When you run into him, be civil and pleasant, don't try to start a conversation, just be quick and move along. If he wants to have a friendship with you, the ball then is in his court. But don't wait around...move on. He can't help his disorder, but you can't fix this either. Just move on and try not to feel bad.
Tell him to kiss your grits. Don't let bipolar be his rationale for being rude. So many people have mental health issues, but still treat people appropriately.
Answer:
I know that it would be hard to do. But the best thing you can do is start ignoring him. Avoid him at all costs and do not contact him. It would do more damage for him to wonder what you are out doing than to know you keep trying to get in touch with him.
Just forget about him. There will be someone that comes along.
Tell yourself you are better than sitting around waiting on someone who won't even show you the respect of communicating his feelings. My husband is bipolar and refuses to take meds. We're seperated because he tried to hurt me when I was 3 months pregnant. You are better than that and deserve more. Move on. Life's too short.
Persons who suffer from Bipolar disorder have difficulty relating to other people. They are often on strong medication to maintain and control the disorder. He may be rejecting you for the usual suspect reasons, i.e.: he doesn't like you, or the chemistry just isn't there, or he's rude. However, he might be avoiding you because he is afraid to start or try to maintain a relationship while he is suffering from this disorder.
Leave him alone. Since that is what he wants. Move on with your life with other people. When you run into him, be civil and pleasant, don't try to start a conversation, just be quick and move along. If he wants to have a friendship with you, the ball then is in his court. But don't wait around...move on. He can't help his disorder, but you can't fix this either. Just move on and try not to feel bad.
Tell him to kiss your grits. Don't let bipolar be his rationale for being rude. So many people have mental health issues, but still treat people appropriately.
Best meds for anxiety?
recently i have been prescribed to paxil and have been taking it for about a month. it has helped the anxiety slighty, but not really when i am in social settings. i absolutely hate the way the paxil makes me feel. it just numbs all of my emotions and makes me feel like a zombie. i dont think i have depression, because im normally a happy person. but i just get very nervous and have panic attacks in social settings. so i believe i have social anxiety disorder. i have an appointment with my doctor this week to discuss other options but i would like to be informed of different drug choices that are available. can anyone list the different types of meds that will help social anxiety disorder, and if you have used any which has helped you best? thanks
Answer:
Paxil (paroxetine) or fluoxetine (prozac) is really a good choice. But since it is not suiting you alprazolam or even clonazepam may be useful alternatives.
It's really different for everyone.
You should ask about clonazepam. They helped me immensely with panic attacks, same with effexor. Your doctor knows best though!
See anxiety, panic attacks, and social phobia, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 6, 8, and 9.
ok you can see a doctor about this, but if you don't want to, why don't you try St.John's Wort found at chemists and in the health sections at some supermarkets. It is commonly used as a natural therapy for anxiety, and sometimes even mild depression.
best of luck
xoxo
i took paxil and i still do and it doesnt work at all but its hard to get off b/c of the massive withdrawls i have bad anxitey and my docter gives me all these things that dont work there for deppression and i tell him im not deppressed...well they dont listen but if ur docter is will to change i take buspar but it ususally doesnt work..only in rare cases but umm i have hurd of a few but most to make u feel like a zombie and i hate that but if i where u i would try effxor or umm cymbltya..i think thats how u spell it give those a try and see what they do.i hope i helped
Hey, Most doctors dont tell you, taking meds may or may not help, no meds can take away anxiety 100% it just takes the edge off, thats it. another thing, new studies are saying its not a mental thing, for most people, like they thought, its a nerve for stress and so on that over reacts for no reason, anxiety can affect your whole body, if you change the way you think, and change your ways alittle, you might not need meds, heres what i did and i never used any drugs, i was so bad i couldnt work or even walk outside, when im feeling it start up, which you can, fast put your mind on something,anything, do something if you like it or not, the thing is you need to tell your body your ok, its a false alarm and your ok. it will pass, and it will.. walking is good, it works in time, walk at a park or some place nice, hobbies are good something easy not stressful, I had this for over 10years runs in my genes, i control it it dosent control me, it comes close but im in control, you must be strong on this, or it will run your life, water is good,drink water off and on all day, it helps, sleep at least 8hours or more is a must, why? if you lack sleep you cant fight it off, if you cant sleep, you must get at least 7, try the walking and putting your mind in a diffrent unstressful change, you can win, it took me over a year to study this on my own, and it works for me... I hope this helps good luck, and get your life back.
Hi, I think a betablocker is best (e.g. propranolol) because it just slows your heart making you unable to panic etc. It doesn't mess with your mind and is non-addictive. It is so safe they even give it to very young children. However, I only found permanant change in my anxiety and panic attacks when I did the following steps. I hope they help you:
1.Breathe properly - if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.
2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to be the most effective thing for panic attacks, OCD and anxiety etc. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can speak to your doctor about taking a course or you can take a course for free online at: www.livinglifetothefull.com
3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really help if you practise often enough. You can get free downloads in you put "progressive muscle relaxation" into Google (e.g. lots of universities have them as free downloads)
With each step practise makes perfect. (i.e. practise the steps every day, not just when you are feeling bad). I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck!
Answer:
Paxil (paroxetine) or fluoxetine (prozac) is really a good choice. But since it is not suiting you alprazolam or even clonazepam may be useful alternatives.
It's really different for everyone.
You should ask about clonazepam. They helped me immensely with panic attacks, same with effexor. Your doctor knows best though!
See anxiety, panic attacks, and social phobia, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 6, 8, and 9.
ok you can see a doctor about this, but if you don't want to, why don't you try St.John's Wort found at chemists and in the health sections at some supermarkets. It is commonly used as a natural therapy for anxiety, and sometimes even mild depression.
best of luck
xoxo
i took paxil and i still do and it doesnt work at all but its hard to get off b/c of the massive withdrawls i have bad anxitey and my docter gives me all these things that dont work there for deppression and i tell him im not deppressed...well they dont listen but if ur docter is will to change i take buspar but it ususally doesnt work..only in rare cases but umm i have hurd of a few but most to make u feel like a zombie and i hate that but if i where u i would try effxor or umm cymbltya..i think thats how u spell it give those a try and see what they do.i hope i helped
Hey, Most doctors dont tell you, taking meds may or may not help, no meds can take away anxiety 100% it just takes the edge off, thats it. another thing, new studies are saying its not a mental thing, for most people, like they thought, its a nerve for stress and so on that over reacts for no reason, anxiety can affect your whole body, if you change the way you think, and change your ways alittle, you might not need meds, heres what i did and i never used any drugs, i was so bad i couldnt work or even walk outside, when im feeling it start up, which you can, fast put your mind on something,anything, do something if you like it or not, the thing is you need to tell your body your ok, its a false alarm and your ok. it will pass, and it will.. walking is good, it works in time, walk at a park or some place nice, hobbies are good something easy not stressful, I had this for over 10years runs in my genes, i control it it dosent control me, it comes close but im in control, you must be strong on this, or it will run your life, water is good,drink water off and on all day, it helps, sleep at least 8hours or more is a must, why? if you lack sleep you cant fight it off, if you cant sleep, you must get at least 7, try the walking and putting your mind in a diffrent unstressful change, you can win, it took me over a year to study this on my own, and it works for me... I hope this helps good luck, and get your life back.
Hi, I think a betablocker is best (e.g. propranolol) because it just slows your heart making you unable to panic etc. It doesn't mess with your mind and is non-addictive. It is so safe they even give it to very young children. However, I only found permanant change in my anxiety and panic attacks when I did the following steps. I hope they help you:
1.Breathe properly - if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.
2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to be the most effective thing for panic attacks, OCD and anxiety etc. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can speak to your doctor about taking a course or you can take a course for free online at: www.livinglifetothefull.com
3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really help if you practise often enough. You can get free downloads in you put "progressive muscle relaxation" into Google (e.g. lots of universities have them as free downloads)
With each step practise makes perfect. (i.e. practise the steps every day, not just when you are feeling bad). I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck!
Best friends are paranoid. Are they being protective or just scared?
I recently told my two good friends that I had been cutting myself, but was getting help (which is true.) I haven't cut myself in months, but they seem constantly worried about me and even check my wrists every time they see me! Both of them have been very supportive but I just want to say "you can back off now." How do I tell them nicely to back off, and not be so overbearing/paranoid that I'll do it again? I appreciate the support but don't want my friends to constantly worry.
Answer:
Sounds like you gave them good reason to be protective. ~
have a long talk with them about how you don't want to cut yourself anymore and how you already got some help and you just want your friendship to go back to how it used to be if you want that way
They are scared for you and they want to help. Maybe tell them how much you appreciate their support but their worry doesn't necessarily help. Perhaps talk to them about the help you're getting and explain that this is something you want to beat. You are very lucky to have such good friends.
Tell them the same way you just told us. "I appreciate your continued support and concearn, but im getting professional help now...i need YOU guys as respectful friends." The hard truth is, as young kids (im assuming) all they know is to baby you. And of course you dont want that. So show them how adult you can be, by being blunt yet tactful. Most important, continue seeking help, that also proves you are in charge of your own issues and dont need the extra eyes. Best of luck and i know you will end up just fine!
By showing them that you cut your wrists at one point in time, they may never know if you have truly stopped now. They know that you are capable of cutting your wrists and they may never be able to truly trust that you have stopped.
Answer:
Sounds like you gave them good reason to be protective. ~
have a long talk with them about how you don't want to cut yourself anymore and how you already got some help and you just want your friendship to go back to how it used to be if you want that way
They are scared for you and they want to help. Maybe tell them how much you appreciate their support but their worry doesn't necessarily help. Perhaps talk to them about the help you're getting and explain that this is something you want to beat. You are very lucky to have such good friends.
Tell them the same way you just told us. "I appreciate your continued support and concearn, but im getting professional help now...i need YOU guys as respectful friends." The hard truth is, as young kids (im assuming) all they know is to baby you. And of course you dont want that. So show them how adult you can be, by being blunt yet tactful. Most important, continue seeking help, that also proves you are in charge of your own issues and dont need the extra eyes. Best of luck and i know you will end up just fine!
By showing them that you cut your wrists at one point in time, they may never know if you have truly stopped now. They know that you are capable of cutting your wrists and they may never be able to truly trust that you have stopped.
Best drug for depression?
I used to have bad anxiety, now that has gone away and been replaced with depression, i sit in my room all day and have no desire to go out. Please help me out. I have tried Paxil CR, Xanax, Effexor, Lexapro, all with minimal results.
Answer:
first off, the anxiety hasn't gone away, it is just masked by the depression. Very often anxiety that is not well managed leads to clinical depression. Meds are not the whole answer here. All they do is serve to make it possible to think more clearly, they are not happy pills. You also need to participate in your own recovery through therapy. If you do not uncover and understand what caused your anxiety disorder to begin with, you will not benefit from any meds. That is why you need to see a therapist in conjunction with the medications.
marijuana
There is no "best drug". Unfortunately it's a GD game of trial %26 error finding the right meds that work for you since every1's body is different. Zoloft helped me for a few years but it eventually pooped out whereas other people I know can't take it. Other people I know took Celexa or Wellbutrin which both gave me convulsions. For the time being I stick w' Xanax %26 THC. Good luck finding the right meds for YOU!. A GOOD therapist helps too.
I have been treated for depression for over 15 years and there is no best drug for depression. Perhaps stepping out and getting treatment for what ever it is your addicted to. I can tell by the question you are addicted to something. Just my opinion.
Everything "odd" has to be branded with a disease or disorder nowadays.
You'd be surprised how much better and easier things get if you realize how much you dislike where you are now and decide to change it, no matter what. Force yourself to do something--go out to a bar, join a club, do anything social. Yeah it sucks, but you know what sucks too? Paying for drugs year after year, having the dosage upped because you get used to it, paying for a shrink, and having to admit to others that youre on psych meds.
Speaking from experience, if you force yourself to go out and do these things and make a change in your own life by your own will, it works so much better than any of the pills.
Find some good friends who get you to do exciting things. You'll be a changed person in a month or two.
PS3, Just get over it. Be happy. Find out what is wrong and fix it. I have the opposite problem. I am just happy all the time. No matter what happens, nothing gets me down. Not really that big of a problem if you think about it.
I know it's frustrating, but your best bet is to stick with the same psychiatrist and keep trying different families of drugs. This sucks, of course, because doctors can't reliably predict which drugs or dosages will work, and you usually have to spend three months at a time adjusting to each new trial.
But don't give up. Finding the right drug/combo could really jumpstart your recovery. In the meantime, make sure that you are eating fresh and natural foods- artificial ingredients can really increase depression a lot. Whenever you can muster the will, take a walk or get some other kind of excercise. Tell your friends you need them to demand that you get out of the house with them.
I was depressed for a long time, but after years of trying different things I finally broke free of it with a combination of prescription drugs and roller derby. Don't give up- it will get better.
Have you considered using natural treatments for depression? How about yoga, talk therapy, journalling, meditating, trying a herb called St John's wort? I got the ideas from this article here
http://www.healthandwellnesscentral.com/...
GO SUICIDE
I used to have bad anxiety man but then I started doing this stuff called crank. It does wonders man get some
cocaine-crack-crystal meth- if youre depressed reality wont cut it- Drugs will
a good friend like me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com or calll 1800 273 talk
try going outside walking around
Answer:
first off, the anxiety hasn't gone away, it is just masked by the depression. Very often anxiety that is not well managed leads to clinical depression. Meds are not the whole answer here. All they do is serve to make it possible to think more clearly, they are not happy pills. You also need to participate in your own recovery through therapy. If you do not uncover and understand what caused your anxiety disorder to begin with, you will not benefit from any meds. That is why you need to see a therapist in conjunction with the medications.
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There is no "best drug". Unfortunately it's a GD game of trial %26 error finding the right meds that work for you since every1's body is different. Zoloft helped me for a few years but it eventually pooped out whereas other people I know can't take it. Other people I know took Celexa or Wellbutrin which both gave me convulsions. For the time being I stick w' Xanax %26 THC. Good luck finding the right meds for YOU!. A GOOD therapist helps too.
I have been treated for depression for over 15 years and there is no best drug for depression. Perhaps stepping out and getting treatment for what ever it is your addicted to. I can tell by the question you are addicted to something. Just my opinion.
Everything "odd" has to be branded with a disease or disorder nowadays.
You'd be surprised how much better and easier things get if you realize how much you dislike where you are now and decide to change it, no matter what. Force yourself to do something--go out to a bar, join a club, do anything social. Yeah it sucks, but you know what sucks too? Paying for drugs year after year, having the dosage upped because you get used to it, paying for a shrink, and having to admit to others that youre on psych meds.
Speaking from experience, if you force yourself to go out and do these things and make a change in your own life by your own will, it works so much better than any of the pills.
Find some good friends who get you to do exciting things. You'll be a changed person in a month or two.
PS3, Just get over it. Be happy. Find out what is wrong and fix it. I have the opposite problem. I am just happy all the time. No matter what happens, nothing gets me down. Not really that big of a problem if you think about it.
I know it's frustrating, but your best bet is to stick with the same psychiatrist and keep trying different families of drugs. This sucks, of course, because doctors can't reliably predict which drugs or dosages will work, and you usually have to spend three months at a time adjusting to each new trial.
But don't give up. Finding the right drug/combo could really jumpstart your recovery. In the meantime, make sure that you are eating fresh and natural foods- artificial ingredients can really increase depression a lot. Whenever you can muster the will, take a walk or get some other kind of excercise. Tell your friends you need them to demand that you get out of the house with them.
I was depressed for a long time, but after years of trying different things I finally broke free of it with a combination of prescription drugs and roller derby. Don't give up- it will get better.
Have you considered using natural treatments for depression? How about yoga, talk therapy, journalling, meditating, trying a herb called St John's wort? I got the ideas from this article here
http://www.healthandwellnesscentral.com/...
GO SUICIDE
I used to have bad anxiety man but then I started doing this stuff called crank. It does wonders man get some
cocaine-crack-crystal meth- if youre depressed reality wont cut it- Drugs will
a good friend like me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com or calll 1800 273 talk
try going outside walking around
Bereavement help?
My girlfriend is depressed recently and i think its because of of the loss of a close family member, it's been 4 years since the person died but its come back now and its really getting her down, she is crying alot and gets bad thoughts.
What can I do to help her?
I am really worried about her, she isnt the same anymore, its been like this for about a week
Answer:
Is it near the anniversary of the death? I always find i think about the departed ones at that particular time.
take her to church and she can talk to a clergy there i lost my mom just last month i know what shes going thru for me though nothing helps i just have to give it to God each day to deal with for me
Be there for her and help her express her feelings. She may need to talk to a licensed counselor though and suggest that you will go with her.
The best advice for you to give her is to give her the name of a clergyman or pastor close by whom you know or could recommend. If you dont know one then ask your parents etc. She needs spiritual guidance if it has been 4 years, That has gone on long enough. It will be the best advice you can give her. Also consent to go along with her on her first counseling session. (clergyman)
This is always a tough situation, but I suggest doing some fun things with her that will get her mind off her loss.
Greiving is good, but not for so long. There's nothing wrong with missing someone who's passed, but so long afterwards isn't healthy.
If the problem continues, maybe suggest to her that she talks to a professional. If this bothers her, suggest that you'll go along with her because you just want to help her and see her happy again.
Just be there to love and support her. If it continues seek professional help. ie: psychologist, minister, etc
Everyone deals with their grief in different ways, and there is no time limit on when it ends or when it can start up. Something may have happened that has triggered her depression now, even though this person died 4 yrs ago.
Help her to realize that she needs to get professional help. There are MDs and meds that can help one return to a normal life. You can be supportive and loving for her, but it sounds as if she has pretty severe symptoms. Sometimes these symptoms can worsen. There is nothing wrong with asking a professional for help when you can't get past what is bringing you so far down. Good luck and you are a good person for helping her through this rough time.
Hi,
My husband lost his mom 4 years ago. It was the hardest thing we ever dealt with. He was only 25 years old and thought he would have his mom much longer.
If things aren't too out of hand...just be there for her. Listen to her. Hold her. Comfort her.
If you can afford it and have the time...maybe surprise her with a mini getaway to get her mind off things. Maybe to a B%26B at least an hour from home. A change of venue.
But, if she seems so bad and she is having scary bad thoughts you might gently talk to her about maybe seeking a professional to talk to. They can help her sort this all out.
So sorry and hope it all works out well.
Very often, the best thing to to is be with her and sit with her, your presence itself should be comforting to her. Also, very often, the best thing to say is absolutely nothing. All your efforts to cheer her up are likely to make her angry with you. She will see your spoken efforts as an attempt to discount and invalidate her pain. So, let her feel what she must and go through the grieving, but just "be there with her" is all she really wants.
I hope this is helpful
well i lost close family members be4 and i know its hard but just tell her that wen she crys it maks them feel bad and that she will one day see them agen.
All people grieve differently...some for short periods and others it takes years. The best thing you can do is just be there for your friend and not 'harp' on it or try to tell her how to feel or when to stop. Time really will help, even though it's been 4 yrs..pain of losing a loved one never goes 100% away but will soften. If you really care about this person you'll just be there listening over and over again. Try to get your friend involved in something helpful to others..a purpose. Take your friend to the cemetery and let them 'pour out' once in awhile and then live!
I know it is hard and you cannot put a time on when to stop grieving, however after four years she needs to move on. I would suggest calling a hospital and ask if they have a grief counseling program or a group that meets once a month or whatever to talk. Perhaps, then she will see that she is not alone and that other people are going through the same thing. She needs help to get on with her life. Tell her that the loss of the close family member would want her not to grieve but to get on with her life. GOOD LUCK!
Four years is a long time to have such a Strong bereavement reaction. It is time she consider what she can do about rebuilding her life after this loss. For many going to group or seeking the help of a pastor, counselor or doctor is helpful in getting a start on the work ahead. clearly her heart is broken and it is time to seek the help she need to mend and rebuild a new life.
What can I do to help her?
I am really worried about her, she isnt the same anymore, its been like this for about a week
Answer:
Is it near the anniversary of the death? I always find i think about the departed ones at that particular time.
take her to church and she can talk to a clergy there i lost my mom just last month i know what shes going thru for me though nothing helps i just have to give it to God each day to deal with for me
Be there for her and help her express her feelings. She may need to talk to a licensed counselor though and suggest that you will go with her.
The best advice for you to give her is to give her the name of a clergyman or pastor close by whom you know or could recommend. If you dont know one then ask your parents etc. She needs spiritual guidance if it has been 4 years, That has gone on long enough. It will be the best advice you can give her. Also consent to go along with her on her first counseling session. (clergyman)
This is always a tough situation, but I suggest doing some fun things with her that will get her mind off her loss.
Greiving is good, but not for so long. There's nothing wrong with missing someone who's passed, but so long afterwards isn't healthy.
If the problem continues, maybe suggest to her that she talks to a professional. If this bothers her, suggest that you'll go along with her because you just want to help her and see her happy again.
Just be there to love and support her. If it continues seek professional help. ie: psychologist, minister, etc
Everyone deals with their grief in different ways, and there is no time limit on when it ends or when it can start up. Something may have happened that has triggered her depression now, even though this person died 4 yrs ago.
Help her to realize that she needs to get professional help. There are MDs and meds that can help one return to a normal life. You can be supportive and loving for her, but it sounds as if she has pretty severe symptoms. Sometimes these symptoms can worsen. There is nothing wrong with asking a professional for help when you can't get past what is bringing you so far down. Good luck and you are a good person for helping her through this rough time.
Hi,
My husband lost his mom 4 years ago. It was the hardest thing we ever dealt with. He was only 25 years old and thought he would have his mom much longer.
If things aren't too out of hand...just be there for her. Listen to her. Hold her. Comfort her.
If you can afford it and have the time...maybe surprise her with a mini getaway to get her mind off things. Maybe to a B%26B at least an hour from home. A change of venue.
But, if she seems so bad and she is having scary bad thoughts you might gently talk to her about maybe seeking a professional to talk to. They can help her sort this all out.
So sorry and hope it all works out well.
Very often, the best thing to to is be with her and sit with her, your presence itself should be comforting to her. Also, very often, the best thing to say is absolutely nothing. All your efforts to cheer her up are likely to make her angry with you. She will see your spoken efforts as an attempt to discount and invalidate her pain. So, let her feel what she must and go through the grieving, but just "be there with her" is all she really wants.
I hope this is helpful
well i lost close family members be4 and i know its hard but just tell her that wen she crys it maks them feel bad and that she will one day see them agen.
All people grieve differently...some for short periods and others it takes years. The best thing you can do is just be there for your friend and not 'harp' on it or try to tell her how to feel or when to stop. Time really will help, even though it's been 4 yrs..pain of losing a loved one never goes 100% away but will soften. If you really care about this person you'll just be there listening over and over again. Try to get your friend involved in something helpful to others..a purpose. Take your friend to the cemetery and let them 'pour out' once in awhile and then live!
I know it is hard and you cannot put a time on when to stop grieving, however after four years she needs to move on. I would suggest calling a hospital and ask if they have a grief counseling program or a group that meets once a month or whatever to talk. Perhaps, then she will see that she is not alone and that other people are going through the same thing. She needs help to get on with her life. Tell her that the loss of the close family member would want her not to grieve but to get on with her life. GOOD LUCK!
Four years is a long time to have such a Strong bereavement reaction. It is time she consider what she can do about rebuilding her life after this loss. For many going to group or seeking the help of a pastor, counselor or doctor is helpful in getting a start on the work ahead. clearly her heart is broken and it is time to seek the help she need to mend and rebuild a new life.
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