I was rapped at 14. I had my daughter 15 as result of that rape. I tried to forget about it the whole time i was pregnant and pretty much did. Then when I had her I pretended everything was normal and pretended nothing happened. Now my daughter is 3 1/2 and my lil sister who is also 3 asked me y veronica didn't have a daddy like her right in front of my daughter. I was at a loss for words, my daughter could tell something was wrong n came up n said i don't need a daddy your the best mommy in the world. SO it seemed solved right shes not asking me. But I'm so worried i haven't protected her from it. and lately i haven't been the same. I always sad and thinking n hate it when its quite cuz I'm left with just my thoughts. I feel like I'm not as good of a mom ne more. am i suffering depression from ignoring what happened for so long? What could I do to feel like myslef again?
Answer:
I think you've been sorta running from the fact that you were through a traumatic experience. Your daughter was right when she told you she doesn't need a dad when she's got a great mom. But it's your responsibility as her mom to take care of yourself %26 to deal with these very difficult issues %26 emotions you are facing within yourself before you can face the questions your daughter will no doubt one day ask. You have to "pull yourself together" so to speak and really just find away to face your experience. Rape leaves very deep scars and the only way to truly heal is to confront those feelings head on and work through them.
Seek counseling and work through your own feelings about this as it's definately something that needs to be dealt with %26 needs some sort of closure. For your sake %26 and your daughters.
Best wishes from the bottom of my heart %26 Good Luck to both of you.
omg your going thro alot and you couldent help that you had that child and that litle baby is a mirical
Go see a therapist. Listen to good, soothing music - - music always solves everything!
what a wonderful mother you are to take a challenging experience and turn it into life. you should talk about your options with a trusted professional, preferably someone who specializes in rape trauma and the impact it has had on your life. the birth of your child is the result of your strength to turn a horrible experience into the greatest experience of your life. remember that. and one day, your child will thank you for it. good luck! you seem like a sweet thoughtful mother.
Yes it is sad, but you don't know, every sadness has an end, and every happiness has an end too. For you it is the sadness which will have an end, and until that you can always visit the EFT site, and accept yourself as you are.
There are millions of non healthy people who suffer, on wheelchairs, or amputated, and they still feel happy.
Everything will be OK, you will find a good advice until your child grows up. Then you can always say that he left you and you don't know where he is, and that you don't want to remember his name.
There is nothing difficult in life, as much as you don't get desperate, and you think that there are people in much worst condition than you. Leave it to God.
Read the story: "And this too shall pass" in my source site.
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