how can i build my self esteem and confdence up,they are realy low.
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There are some really good self confidence/confidence building courses if you are in the UK. The key to being confident is to like yourself and not to be too hard on yourself. Good luck.
shut up and speak when spoken to
get over your flaws and find a couple good friends.
relize everything you have, think about the good things about yourself, relax and have fun with friends, play games, make life goals, hope this helps
hi there.. well i used to be just like you..a low self esteem and then i decided not to care what others thought of me..now i a have a really high self esteem and people tell me that im cocky..well i am (kinda)..just be yourself dont try to be someone you are not!! and dont turn in to a cocky person because then you will not have any friends...take my advice to better yourself..
You have to believe in yourself. If you have no faith in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to have faith in you? Even in failure you succeed, if you tried to do something. You gained the experience on what not to do the next time around you are confronted with the same problem.
I used to have the same problem but it got better through the years. Then I started kickboxing and I feel much better. You get so much more confidence, you can feel how good it is for your body and soul. It really helped me, I would say, try to do some kind of sports. Go out, do things that you like, share it with other people.
A bit hard to answer this without knowing a bit about you. But you could start by working out what you want from life - it must be realistic. Then work out the steps you would have to take to get there. Set yourself one mamgeable task that gives you a bit of a challenge. It might be as simple as going for a bus ride or making the phone call you've been dreading.
A good way of improving your self respect is to do something for someone else - ring to see how they are, send a card, offer to take them shopping, pay a social call, offer to babysit - the list is endless. Helping someone else makes you feel better, and 2 of you have benefitted. Then treat yourself to a small reard - take yourself out for a coffee or buy a CD.
You may like to join a group or volunteer - I help in a hospital shop, a luncheon club, and mini bus driving. I also sing in a choir. If you have a God, go to church and get involved.
Hope these suggestions help - do feel free to email me honey. Shalom
tell me when you know good luck
Give a mate a 拢100 or something over 拢10 but make sure they won't spend it. They will give you a task that includes confidence and self esteem. You have to do the task and pass for the money back.
Hypnotherapy may help. CDs are widely available. You will find many to help stop smoking but there are others aimed at building confidence and self esteem.
You may be able to download from a torrent source if you have Bitcomet download software.
really trust yourself and your gut instincts and know that you are a good person no matter who else is around you
Six Behaviors that Increase Self-Esteem
By Denis Waitley
"It's not what you are that holds you back, it's what you think you are not"
Following are six behaviors that increase self-esteem, enhance your self-confidence, and spur your motivation. You may recognize some of them as things you naturally do in your interactions with other people. But if you don't, I suggest you motivate yourself to take some of these important steps immediately.
First, greet others with a smile and look them directly in the eye. A smile and direct eye contact convey confidence born of self-respect. In the same way, answer the phone pleasantly whether at work or at home, and when placing a call, give your name before asking to speak to the party you want to reach. Leading with your name underscores that a person with self-respect is making the call.
Second, always show real appreciation for a gift or complement. Don't downplay or sidestep expressions of affection or honor from others. The ability to accept or receive is a universal mark of an individual with solid self-esteem.
Third, don't brag. It's almost a paradox that genuine modesty is actually part of the capacity to gracefully receive compliments. People who brag about their own exploits or demand special attention are simply trying to build themselves up in the eyes of others 鈥?and that's because they don't perceive themselves as already worthy of respect.
Fourth, don't make your problems the centerpiece of your conversation. Talk positively about your life and the progress you're trying to make. Be aware of any negative thinking, and take notice of how often you complain. When you hear yourself criticize someone 鈥?and this includes self-criticism 鈥?find a way to be helpful instead of critical.
Fifth, respond to difficult times or depressing moments by increasing your level of productive activity. When your self-esteem is being challenged, don't sit around and fall victim to "paralysis by analysis." The late Malcolm Forbes said, "Vehicles in motion use their generators to charge their own batteries. Unless you happen to be a golf cart, you can't recharge your battery when you're parked in the garage!"
Sixth, choose to see mistakes and rejections as opportunities to learn. View a failure as the conclusion of one performance, not the end of your entire career. Own up to your shortcomings, but refuse to see yourself as a failure. A failure may be something you have done 鈥?and it may even be something you'll have to do again on the way to success 鈥?but a failure is definitely not something you are.
Even if you're at a point where you're feeling very negatively about yourself, be aware that you're now ideally positioned to make rapid and dramatic improvement. A negative self-evaluation, if it's honest and insightful, takes much more courage and character than the self-delusions that underlie arrogance and conceit. I've seen the truth of this proven many times in my work with athletes. After an extremely poor performance, a team or an individual athlete often does much better the next time out, especially when the poor performance was so bad that there was simply no way to shirk responsibility for it. Disappointment, defeat, and even apparent failure are in no way permanent conditions unless we choose to make them so. On the contrary, these undeniably painful experiences can be the solid foundation on which to build future success.
The best way to be confident is to act confident. No matter how scared you are on the inside, keep telling yourself - what's the worst possible thing that can happen? You'll realise that nothing TOO bad will happen and that should help you radiate confidence!
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